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Its all about winning at home first!
In this Fun Friday Chris reviews several points from Cory Carlson’s outstanding insight that was actionable, practicable and tangible for any man that wants to take winning at home seriously and leans into these ideas.
At the end of the day, you're to serve God, your wife, then your kids. Make sure you have those priorities in the right order. Click To TweetChris Grainger
I got some health, wealth and sales tips that I’m gonna share with you, I’ll say go over to book the week, dad jokes. And we’re just going to give you some really tasks and things together as we move into this fun Friday. So guys, you know, I love starting every, every episode of the lion within us, with scripture, you know, we have to focus on the word of God and you know, I’m growing.
You know, I am definitely not as far along as, as a lot of you out there listening, you know, I am trying every day to spend time in the word and to grow. So for this. We’ve been focusing on second Corinthians three 16 through 18, that scripture says this, but wherever anyone turns to the Lord, the veil is taken away and memorable.
Go back to this spiritual kickoff. We talked a lot about that veil and what that means now, the Lord is the spirit and where the spirit of the Lord is. There is freedom. And when we all who with unveiled faces contemplate the Lord’s glory are being transformed in his image with ever increasing glory.
Which comes from the Lord, who is the spirit, just such beautiful scripture right there from Paul. I just tell you what, go back to that spiritual kickoff. I really spent some time on Monday walking you through how I perceive that word. I did some study and try to bring you some insight. We take going back to old Testament, Moses, what that veil represents and the beauty of let Jesus, dear for us.
So great stuff there. Now our big episode. Wonderful about winning at home first, right? He unpacked the areas of you, marriage parenting and work. Write that book. He just really, he walked all through it and he gave some wonderful insight. And I thought the power in saying no, that jumped out of you need to be able to control your calendar.
And you control your calendar about what you learned to say no to, you know, we’re so tuned to saying yes to everything, but there is power in saying no love language. Understanding what our wise loved languages are, you know, and then not just understanding them, but actually speaking to them. It’s one thing to understand that, but guys, we need to speak to those love languages.
We need to take them to heart lean into those love languages. And actually start speaking that to, to grow our relationship with our wife. Because you know, when he talked about the great divorces and how, you know, you get the gray hair to kids move out, and then you don’t know who you’re living with, you can’t connect with them.
And you’re only your only reason for being together with, because the kids that’s not marriage, that is not what God designed. God designed it for much greater than that. Yes. Kids are a blessing, you know, the Quiverfull wise, the Bible says, yes, I get it. But at the end of the day, you’re to serve your wife, first God, your wife, then your kids make sure you have those priorities.
So at this thing, Uh, unpack that wasn’t this very impactful. And when he talked about parenting, how the actions are much more important than the word and you guys, you know, that if you listen to line within us, you know, I talk about this all the time, but it’s not what we say. It’s what we do. You know, kids are going to model that.
So if you’re raising young boys, you’re teaching them how to be a man, how to treat a lady in the future. If you’re, if you’re raising young girls, you’re teaching them what they should expect out of a future. That’s a lot of pressure. I get a gas. If you don’t lean into this and take this serious, the world is going to lead them.
And once the world leads them, you know, we’ve lost the area that he talked about that really impacted me too, was to notifications and taken this, turn them off on your phone and go on from a push mindset to a poor man. So where you go and you get that information on your calendar, when you decide, when you make the choice versus everything being pushed to us, we’re an information overload guys.
It’s incredible. And we’ve got to stop it. We’ve got to stop it. So I’ve just so excited to see, you know, how that message encourages you, lifts you up, gives you insight. And, and to his 0.1 thing, just take one thing and try implementing. Into your life and see the impact it’s gonna make guys is going to make an improvement.
So I’m very excited and thankful for Corey for sharing with us now for the health tip. Well tip and self tip for this week. We’ll start off with our health tip. I want you to identify what is fruitful rest, and then what drains you. Okay. And what am I talking about here by simply not moving that doesn’t mean resting.
So you can be sitting on the couch, you can be watching a basketball game or baseball game, and you could be into that game. Maybe it’s a two, three hours you’re into it and you are amped up. I mean, you’re up, you’re jacked because this is your team and, and you want them to win. Right. But when you’re doing that, that’s not serving rest that doesn’t, that’s not resting.
That’s not giving your mind time to calm down to relax. God’s not gonna be able to speak to you that doll old ballgame or race or whatever blasting in the background has got your attention. Now, when we’re talking about risks, we’re at, we’re talking about disconnecting, you know, and you need to recognize what gets you worked up.
Maybe it’s not ballgames, maybe it’s news or social media, or just different types of media out there in general, right? Uh, that, that we’re listening at work. That we need to understand those completely. And we’re when we’re entering that time arrest disengage, you need to disengage from that completely and to build a kingdom, you need arrests.
So there’s your, there’s your health tip guys. We’ve got to identify what fruitful rest is and what drains us. And didn’t start disengaging from the things that are going to be draining us down. So wealth tip. Monthly budget meetings we’ll keep you and your wife. Well, lot, period. I can’t emphasize that enough.
You know, the whole, when Corey mentioned that the, the gray divorces so many times, they’re also divorced comms when, because of money straints and finances. And if you start having a monthly budget meeting, that’s going to create alignment that, that you just cannot beat consistency, transparency, and truthfully.
If you have those three things lined up into these budget meetings, I’ll tell you what you’re going to have put your, your marriage so far ahead of everyone else, because you’re going to be United. You’re going to be, uh, positioning yourselves to win, and you’re going to be the stewards that God desires.
And once you, you show God the, the ability to be a steward that he wants you to be, the blessings will come. And just be prepared because he’s going to bless those. Then when theses a, Hey, they, they get it, this, the blessing will just continue to be fruitful. Right? So the right view of money being allowance, your wife had those monthly budget meetings now for me and my wife, we have at the end of every.
And every month before the new month starts, we sit down, we look, we do a recap of how we did for the month that we’re in and we do the planning for the next month. And that takes us 15 to 30 minutes. It just depends on the month on what’s going on, but what you need to remember things like special events like birthdays, holidays, travel, you know, special, big things, vacations.
Uh, maybe you, you pay your insurance on them on a bi-annual basis. And you know, that six month premium comes. Do you need to notice that. Have them in your budget because you may need to adjust your budget moving around, but monthly budget meetings, self tip now will steal this self tip. Okay. I’ll pull on this one for, from, from Dr.
Jordan Peterson and is tell the truth or at least don’t lie. And I know that sounds very silly, but come on God, hang with me specifically. I’m talking about to your kids when they ask direct and uncomfortable questions. Okay. So speak truth to your kids, filter it to weather. You know, where, where do babies come from?
That’s the question we all get asked. That’s a different answer for a four year old versus an 11 year old. Okay. So what you also do, don’t lie to them. You know, they didn’t get dropped off by a stork, you know, that’s just not how it happens. Right. We need to be able to be comfortable in having that conversation and meeting them where they are, but avoid outright lying because that doesn’t build them up.
That sets precedents that you do not want to hear. So just tell the truth or at least don’t lie. So there are your three tips. Okay. Guys, identify what is fruitful rest, what that looks like and what drains you, and then remove those drains. Had those monthly budget meetings. I can help you with that. Reach out to the line within us.
I can give you some insight on effective ways to have those budget meetings and then tell the truth, or at least don’t lie. So there are three tips. Now the book of the week, big surprise here guys went at home first for those don’t YouTube. I’m holding it up. Incredible book cannot emphasize how, how good Corey put this together.
It took him a ton of time and he’s got another book coming up. He talked about that in the episode as well. This book, great resource. It needs to be on a shelf of every one of these Christian dads out here that are trying to lead our families will don’t give you some good insight. Okay. So check out the show notes for the book.
Bad joke times let’s get to the jet bad jokes. Cause we want to give you guys something that you can take to your kids or your wife. And remember our roles do count. So dad joke. Number one, I made a pencil with two erasers. It was pointless. All right. Now that joke hit pretty good at my house. So we’ll see how it hits for you.
I dare joke. Number two, my son was chewing on an electrical cord, so I had to ground. He is doing better currently and conducting himself properly. All right. And so I do have electrical engineering backgrounds, so that one hit a little bit more funnier for me than, than maybe for everyone else. But guys, that is a funny dad joke.
So let me know which one hits the pencil with two erasers. It was pointless. Or my son was showing out that electrical cord. I had to ground him. He was doing better currently and conducting himself properly. Stay, go, dad, joke. Number two, let me know which one in the comments just, just hit. And I’m always looking for new dad jokes.
So if you’ve got a good dad joke, send it in. And if we featured, I’ll give you a shout out on, on, on who sent that into us, that a question of the week, the strive to win at home as hard as you do at work. And I know that that is hard, that that’s a question that hits you at the core. And I get it hits me at the core too, but the lie within us, it’s nine.
To just give you the, the, the, the, the cushy stuff. We’re here to challenge you guys. We’re here to help you grow. You’re listening to loud within us for a reason. And I don’t think it’s just so you can be the same man. You are tomorrow that you are today, just because you want to get better. You’re trying to improve.
And to Cory’s point, maybe it’s a 1% improvement, but if you improve 1% of a little bit every day, think about that impact in 30 days, 60, 90, a year. Think about that, it snowballs. You need to make that a go, you can do this. We’re here to help you. We’re here to give you encouragement. So I wanna encourage you guys also to go to the line with check out the website because some things are new.
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In true Fun Friday fashion we cover tips in the area of health, wealth and self. One the key areas covered was how to prioritize the monthly budget meeting to reduce stress and create alignment in your marriage. Money is a major stressor and when you get on the same page as your wife it is truly liberating.
It would not be complete without a few great dad jokes and as always the book of the week. Your library should be growing Lions and keep strengthening your mind as you grow in your walk.
Book of the Week: Win at Home First by Cory Carlson
As you head into the weekend consider the question of the week: Do you strive to win at home as hard as you do at work? If you resoundingly want to win at home the great news is the Lion Within Us is here to support you in your journey to be the leader you are predestined to be!
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