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In this Fun Friday Chris reviews a few of the lessons learned from Dr. Cameron Staley in his powerful conversation. That conversation was full of tools and wisdom to help those that are struggling with the use of pornography. It is gripping men everywhere and there are ways out. If you or others are struggling we highly encourage you to check out his resources and begin walking the path of redemption.
When you think about what porn actually does to our sexual relationships with our wives and how it impacts us mentally, it can be very deflating. I get it, but there is hope! Click To TweetChris Grainger
So the scripture this week, we’ve already talked about it. Matthew five verse 20. But I say to you that everyone who looks at a woman with lust for her has already committed adultery with her in his heart. Again, that was, that was Jesus saying those words on the sermon, on the sermon of the Mount guys, go back to the spiritual kickoff.
I unpacked that scripture in depth gave you a lot of things to think about it even went back and started talked about king. Baba, the things that happened there, pick you the Psalm 51 as well about the, the, the, his, the way he was asking for forgiveness. The guys lot, lot, lot in ti that scripture, that one little verse to unpack around lust and the desire.
So guys, go back, check it out. Now, if you missed the episode on yet on we. Shame on you, first of all, but go back and check it out. Now you made be thinking, well, cuz I don’t deal with pornography. Why do I need to listen to it? Because guys, the first part of that conversation for one, we didn’t talk about you.
We talked about your children or young or the youth and I guarantee there’s an opportunity everyone of our lives at some point, well, we gonna be able to serve someone that’s younger than us and help them with this. Okay. So we talk. Boundaries and ways to set up ways to communicate with our children.
What should we be looking for? How we can be helping them right now. And then we did talk, we did flip it. We did talk about you. As, as, as the Christian, then we talked about the impact that it has on our marriages, what it looks like, what it’s actually doing to our sexual relationships, with our wives by the use of pornography and how it impacts us mentally and guys.
You know, when, when you go through and you start thinking through the impact that it has, it can be very deflating. I get it, but there is hope. And of course we know where that hope comes from, but also Dr. Cameron has dedicated his life. He has done so much to help people overcome this and he’s has tools.
He has resources, and he has proven you can beat this and you can overcome this. And as little as 12 weeks, couple months, guys, We’re not talking about years here and we’re not talking about thousands upon thousands of dollars, either for help. We’re talking about less than a hundred dollars. He is being able to help so many men overcome this.
So again, this may not be your personal struggle, but I guarantee you, if you’re a Christian man in a church, you are surrounded with brothers that are struggling with this learn so that you can help them in their time of need. So go back and check that out. I’m not gonna tell you anymore. You gonna have to go check it out to get all the details there.
I guarantee you it’s time. Well spent learn from Dr. Cameron. Okay. Now I’m gonna give you for fun Friday. You know, it’s gonna come the health, wealth and self tip. Okay. We’re gonna start off with the health tip and I’m gonna steal this one from Dr. Cameron, cuz I thought that this was so good, but he talked about acceptance and commitment therapy, that act therapy, right?
And again, that’s an action oriented. To, to therapy that stems from traditional behavior therapy and cognitive behavior therapy. Okay. So basically you, you learn to stop avoiding and denying and struggling with all these different emotions. And instead, you know, you take them to a deeper level and you lean into ’em.
Okay. You get that understanding and then you begin to accept and understand those hardships and commit to making those changes in your behavior, regardless of what’s going on. Okay. Or how you feel about. So do some research here in the a C T I’m telling you guys, this is some interesting stuff I’ve done re I did research preparing to have this conversation with, uh, with Dr.
Staley. And there’s a lot out there that can really give you some insight, and I’ll tell you what, you can come a long way and you can, and you can really overcome a lot with understanding that, you know what, you’re not broken, you know, you’re, you are not broken. There’s just things that we need help. You what?
There’s wonderful things out there that people like Dr. Cameron here he’s developed that helps serve us. So that, that acceptance and commitment therapy act, Google it, check it out. There may be some stuff there. And again, this is not just for pornography. Say you’re struggling with, with weight loss. Maybe you’re struggling with, um, anxiety, stress, addictions, you know, or, or alcoholism.
There’s different things out there. The a C T therapy is proven to, to help and serve. So guys, go check that out again. I’m not a psychologist, I’m just telling you there’s some really good information. And I learned a lot working with Cameron. I think that would serve us well. So a health tip, go check that out.
Just get educated on that. That’ll give you another feather in your cap to be able to serve others potentially in the future as well. Now, your wealth tip for this week, since we did talk about marriage. Invest in your marriage. This could be the greatest investments you can make. Okay. Now, what am I talking about here?
It could be counseling. Okay. Could be getaways, couple massages, date nights, whatever it is. But the, the minutes you stop working on your marriage, it’s gonna start deteriorating. It is so make those investments, make those investments right now and build them into your. These things you’re gonna have to build ’em into your budget.
My wife and I, when we go out every month, when we, when we sit down and do our budget, we plan when we’re going out and we put the money towards it. When, when we work with counseling it’s it’s cause we have a bad marriage. No it’s cause we have a great marriage and we wanna make it awesome. So you know what?
We budget for that. And we put it in there, make that invest investments right now, start putting those funds away and building towards that amazing marriage. I don’t want you to settle for good. Okay. You shouldn’t even settle for great. Go for amazing, incredible. Just whatever the adjective that you can think of.
That’s, that’s better than that. That’s what you want because that’s the covenant of marriage that God has designed. We don’t wanna just go through this. We want to have amazing intimate connection with our wives. You know what guys, sometimes it takes some investment. So lean into that, make it part of your budget.
It’s important if you, and what gets budgeted and gets planned gets done. So there you go, guys. There’s your wealth tip. Now your self tip. I want you to be a sheep dog. When it comes to protecting your children from sexually inappropriate items, what does that look like? Be a sheep dog. You do not give your children.
Okay. Unrestricted iPhones, tablets, or computers. Because you would not hand them a loaded gun, would you? And then you need to think about this. If you have children. I, I even teens guys, you have got to be careful here. Okay. Create those boundaries, check in, have conversations, right? Make sure those conversations age appropriate, obviously, but teach your children directly about guy’s design of sex and marriage and all that entail.
They need to hear it from you. They don’t need to hear it from a book. They don’t need to hear it from a teacher. They definitely don’t need to hear it from a friend or, or, or people at their school. And you Def, or worst case scenario from pornography. This is not where they need to learn this stuff. Now I get it.
Some of you guys are clamming up right now with the thought of doing this. You gotta get over that. You know, if you’re gonna be a lion, if you’re gonna get up there and you’re gonna lead your family, you need to have the conversations that. I got, I have three daughters, our older daughters we’ve started having these conversations.
Is it fun? No. Is it necessary? Yes. And lions don’t run. Don’t run away from the hard stuff we lean into it. Cause if we don’t, I guarantee you, Satan is gonna take that opportunity to expose your children. It’s something that they shouldn’t. Be a sheep dog. Be relentless. Do not let this slip do not lead this up to other people do not make your wife do this by herself.
The man needs to step in right here and be a man. I know I’m speaking very direct to your guys and I get some of you may be getting frustrated. It’s okay. You can be frustrated at me cause you know, I’m right on this one. Lean in, make a difference. They’re your three tips. Okay. Your health tip a C T acceptance and commitment.
Go do your research, your well tip, invest in your marriage. Make sure you make that investment and your self tip. Be a sheep dog. Bottom line. Make that happen, guys. Now the book of the week, this week, Cameron actually recommended this book. So I went out and bought it. I read it and it’s phenomenal. It’s called the happiness trap.
Okay. It’s written by Russ Harris. The Ford is by Steven Hayes, I guess Steven Hayes, according to Cameron is actually the gentleman who, who, who, uh, developed a C T therapy, but it gives a really good overview of what a C T therapy is some ideas about, um, how, how to actually implement this in your wife and, and not your wife and your life.
And then, so he talks about what your, what your inner inner world looks. And then it, it talks about how you can create a life work living. But I tell you what guys, the cool part about this book. What I enjoyed the most about it was it gave some practical type tips that you can apply and that you can start really, you know, practicing right then.
I mean, it will literally tell you, like, here’s what you need to do. Put the book down and go try it. So this is kind of like a, a, a manual that you can take. And really, it’s not just, uh, it’s not an easy read, something that you just wanna sit down and just breeze through. It’s something you don’t wanna take your time.
Uh, just the exercises that they, they recommend do. ’em take the time to actually do them. Cuz guys that’s where the learning happens. That’s where you get better. That’s where you grow. That’s where you develop. So again, the happiness trap go to the book of the week. We’ll see it right there. Go to the link in the show notes for this particular episode, you’ll get, be able to get you a copy of it.
I really highly encourage this. This could be a great resource for you as well as to, to help you with your children in, in the future. If they’re dealing with anxiety or stress, Or these different things, the happiness trap that a C T therapy again, covers the board. Okay. Now, since we’ve had a heavy week of topics, I get it.
I get it. It’s been a heavy week of topics here, but let’s have a few dead jokes. Let’s lighten it up before we end up here this week. So dad joke, number one, I start telling people about the benefits of dried grapes. Okay. It’s about RA awareness. So I’m not, you know, again, just recording here, but you, if you’re not laughing at that one, something’s wrong with you.
Come on. Raising awareness, come on, get with it there. Number two, my wife asked me to get six cams of Sprite from store. I realized when I got home, I had picked seven up. There you go, guys. The. Those are free use ’em at will. I think they’re both hit so well. Let, let us know who sent us a note, which one works?
Number one, I started telling people about the benefits of drive grapes. It’s all about raising awareness. Number two, my wife started ask my wife, asked me to get six cans of Sprite from the store. I realized when I got home, I had picked seven up. So there you go, guys. Let us know again. Number one, number two.
I think they’re both, uh, home runs this week for your question of week. What lustful behavior do you need to flee from the Bible doesn’t say mess around with this stuff. The, the Bible says flee. So what lustful behavior do you need to flee from? I’m gonna ask you one more thing. Can you hand your phone right now to your wife, your an unlocked phone and not worry about anything?
If you can’t answer that with a resounding yes. There may be some lustful behavior in your life that you need the type to think about. You need to address these types of things, create stress and anxiety. These will fester. These will grow. It will also create a VO, a a, a wedge in your marriage. Guys don’t play around sexual sin.
Do not play around with that. That’s the quickest way, the quickest way to ruin your marriage. And I want your marriage to be fricking. To be incredible. And the only way that’s gonna happen is you gotta get this, these, these tools from Satan out of right now. So lean into that stuff, guys make it happen.
So guys, there you go again. This week we covered a lot. We covered some heavy topics. I know the topics weren’t, weren’t, wasn’t the most fun, but it was, I. We’re gonna try to talk about stuff like this guys. Cause why this is what it’s about. Trying to help us grow to be the leaders we’re predestined to be.
We can’t just talk about cupcake and rainbows. We gotta get into the real meat and potatoes. Okay. There it was guys. You enjoyed it. Share it with someone. Seriously, share it with someone, give us a rating and review that helps. If you want me to come talk with your church or your men’s group, send us a message.
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We share some practical Health, Wealth and Self tips that can be applied in your daily walk. For those with children in the home pay particular attention to the self tip as it needs to be utilized starting immediately.
In true Fun Friday fashion we challenge you with a book of the week that will help you grow and the Dad Jokes this week will be a hit with all those around your table.
Remember that there is not condemnation for those that are in Christ Jesus and if you feel like pornography has to be part of your life we are here to help. Reach out, connect and join the community of Lions so we can walk beside you through the storm.
Book of the week: The Happiness Trap: How to Stop Struggling and Start Living by Russ Harris
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