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How has your definition of masculinity changed?
In this Fun Friday we unpack some of the lessons learned from the powerful conversation with Ryan Michler. As always he brought a ton of valuable insight that we can apply to our daily walks right now.
Comfort makes you complacent. Pick an area where your routine is solid then purposely throw a wrench into it. Click To TweetChris Grainger
That’s right. Now, scripture this week was a very, just a special scripture that, that I really enjoyed unpacking our spiritual kickoff and it’s first Corinthians 16. Be on the alert Stand firm in the faith. Act like men. Be strong guys, there’s so much unpack there. Go check out that spiritual kickoff. If you missed it, that was your opportunity.
You can go back on, on, on two episodes ago. You’ll be able to find that episode. Listen to it. I really took some time to unpack that scripture and find, and not just unpack it, give you some guys some ways that you can apply it. Cause it’s all about simplifying and applying god’s. That’s it. That’s what the Lion within us is all about.
Now pray you go back and check that one out. Now, if you missed our last episode, go back. Why? Because we had Ryan LER on again. Okay. Now Ryan, he’s the host and the founder of the Order of Man Guys love what Ryan’s doing. Definitely support him. We had him on a few months back where he talked about his book Sovereignty.
Well, then he just, and when we had him on, then he was talking about his new book that was getting ready to. We had just released the masculinity manifesto. We really unpacked a lot of of items inside that book around. And some of the, the highlights were around like, what does credibility actually mean?
Like, we all want influence and authority. We don’t think about that credibility piece, so what does that actually mean? And we talked about how, how we, we need to strive to stop trying to be a superhero. How many of you guys are driving, or you’re on a treadmill or you’re walking wherever you’re at right now and all you can think.
All the things you got coming at you, all the deadlines, all the responsibilities, all the things that are just constantly filling up your calendar. You don’t have to be a superhero. So we talk about that and how that mindset, uh, shift that we need to make there now. So I mean, we talked about, um, just some productive outcomes to harness masculinity.
And we talked about some areas like dominance and aggress. So guys, when you hear those words, you, you automatically think a negative, uh, tone. But actually when you look at it in the right context, these are not bad words, these are not bad attributes. They just need to be harnessed the correct way. So again, Ryan, phenomenal guest.
I pray that you go back that conversation out. We had a a great time as, as. Just, just sharing insight and wisdom. So I pray that serves you well. And as I told you on that episode, the tips for today come directly from Ryan. Okay? And then from from his book. And I wanted to pull some things out just to help us all grow together.
So we’re gonna have a health tip, a well tip, and a self tip. Okay? Now your heel tip, comfort makes you complacent. Okay? Now we gotta push against these guys. Cause the storms in life, they are. In order to perform, you need to create scenarios that are challenging, okay? This is gonna serve you very well, particularly the one that you’re trying to lead.
It’s gonna really serve you well. So this could be physical, mental, um, or even personal and professional, right? And this takes effort because you’re ha, you’re gonna have to create. These, these areas that are going to make you feel the resistance, right? So pick an area where your, where your routine is, is, is solid.
Like things are going great. Throw wrench in it. Purposely throw a wrench into it. Okay. Cause you’re trying to create more resistance to build up, right? That endurance. So my workout, for example, right? I’ve been doing the same thing for basically a couple years doing a lot of running, biking, very little strength training.
Started working, uh, with this coach out out of the UK who got connected. And, uh, he challenged me to, to cut back cardio and to cut back cardio and to do more strength training. So he gave me a three day a week strength training, uh, regimen. Now this is not, you know, where you have to have a ton of equipment or anything like that.
This is all free weights, basically all dumbbell, actually it’s all dumbbell weights and, but it worked on some areas. And I haven’t worked on in a while, and we were doing like reverse lunges, uh, golet squats and different type of things. Well, after the first day, my legs wouldn’t work for, for like two days.
Right. And why? Because I found areas of weakness in my own body and I, and I was challenging what was comfortable. Yeah. I could get on a bike and ride 20 miles. Right? I could go out and run six, maybe even 10 miles. And, and be fine. Like those muscles were good, but there are other muscles that weren’t being challenged.
Now I know that’s a physical example, but the same thing can apply in many different areas of your life. From a mentality standpoint, from a personal, professional death standpoint, are you just going in day in, day out, doing the same thing at work? Or are you trying to find ways to improve, to improve your company to serve at different levels?
So co just remember that. You know, comfort rather makes you complacent, and we need to push back against that. There’s your health tip, your wealth tip this week. Lead before the title. Okay? Too many men identify well what their LinkedIn profile says, right? Hey, that whoever, and that’s way more important than who they actually are as a man.
And it just baffles me. It completely baffles me right to lead. You need to look for ways to fill a void that’s left by others. That’s it. You’ll hear people complaining at work. I get it. So when you hear that, that’s an opportunity, Take that opportunity and solve it. Focus on serving others versus what’s in it for me, guys, we gotta get over this mindset of the title.
We need a title. We need a title. We need a title. No, you don’t. You need to serve if you serve and do things the right way and you provide. And you actually care about others. You can’t fake this and you think less of yourself. Remember humility’s not thinking less yourself, but thinking of yourself less.
You have all those types of things and you bring down to your workplace the impact’s gonna be incredible. That goes against the world, cuz the world’s gonna say, Well, I need to take it, Almost use my name. Well, Chris needs a word about Chris. And Chris needs to do all he hand help Chris get better. Chris.
Chris. Chris. Chris. Chris. Wrong any about me? Never has. That has served me well. I, I really, I, this is a tip that I apply pretty regular. I, I, I’ve gotten over titles. I don’t care. I don’t care if the title is, uh, is CEO or janitor Serve. Just serve and find those, vo those opportunities, fill that void. That’s it.
Now, the self tip, this is the one that kind of was hard for me when I read the book and I had Ryan. But the whole idea of rendering yourself obsolete, think about that from the standpoint of your kids. Okay? Now, again, tough pill to swallow here, guys, but our goal as fathers is to raise strong, capable, resilient, independent children, independent children.
And it can be hard when they don’t need us as much. My 12 year old, I’m struggling right with this right now. She doesn’t need dad quite as much, right? I’m not as cool as I used to be. Right? Uh, and, and look, I’m not serving her well. If I make her dependent on me for everything, that does not serve her well, right?
So for me, I’m having to start small. You know, I’m starting to think of things that I can do or, or maybe even stop doing these gifts her more. Right. It gives her an opportunity. Maybe you gotta, you gotta let ’em make those messes. You gotta let ’em make those mistakes. Don’t be the helicopter parent, Don’t be the the lawnmower parent.
Like, let your children do some things. Let ’em learn. You know, we’re, we’re working with our, with our, our youngest right now and just on, on transitioning to sippy cups and, and trying to get her to learn to hold and trying to get her to learn to walk and all these different things, you know. The, the tendency could be, Well, I just wanna carry around and give her a bottle all the time.
Cause I like that. I like giving her a bottle. I like carrying her. It’s very, it’s just is very soothing for me. Uh, she likes it, but that doesn’t serve her well. Now I still have time there and there’s still opportunities where I can hold my daughter and, and, and give her a sep of things like that. But, you know, that season will change and.
She, she won’t wanna just lay on me. She wont be moving around and walking. And you have to understand that that’s her job. I need her to be dependent, independent, rather, I, I don’t need her depending on me, but I want her all three and prayerfully four of our children to be independent, to be able to do things on their own.
Sometimes you at rendering yourself obsolete. Guys, I know that that scares a lot of you thinking about. But the sooner you get this through your, your, your head and start really thinking about how you can make this actually happen in your house, the better you’re gonna be doing at serving the ones that you ultimately care about.
The guys really thinking about that. Renting yourself obsolete with your kids. Okay, I don’t, didn’t bring up the work thing, but my second challenge to you would be thinking about how do you render yourself obsoleted work? And I know that really scares a lot of you guys, but. If you want to be a good leader, and if you’re listening to the line within us, prayerfully you, you wanted to grow in leadership, you need to think about not just the people that report to you, but think another level down.
So if you have leaders, two levels removed from you, and you’re seeing that you’re doing something, if you don’t see that there’s an opportunity, maybe have an opportunity to to, to step up your leadership game. But again, render yourself obs. Think about what you can be doing to serve others, less of you, more about serving.
So those three tips, they all come from mind. I give him full credit on that. Comfort makes you complacent lead before the title Render yourself obsolete. Okay, now the book the week, No big surprise, The Masculinity Manifesto. Now this copy right here and this three ring binder, that’s just my copy, that is the early copy he sent me was the, it was the pre-print copy.
Um, for, for advanced review, I printed it out cuz I have to make notes and all this. That’s just the way I process stuff guys. I can’t do the eBooks and things like that. I’m old school. I know. But go check out the, the show notes. We’ll have a link there. Uh, and then ask Ryan mentioned, give him a review, like legit read the book, then go give a review.
Because look, Amazon, these algorithms, all that stuff matters. So the more review. Obviously the more chances that that’s gonna get in front of people that need to hear this message. Okay, so guys, I pray again, go check that show notes out. We’ll have the links there. Uh, for the book. The Masculinity Manifesto really enjoyed it.
It’s not long, it’s not a long book either. Uh, it’s, uh, 15 chapters, but they’re, they’re relatively short chapters. But guys, I promise you it’s a fun read, uh, many ways to apply it to your. So now you know, on our fun Friday, we’re gonna have our dad jokes. So dad joke number one this week, a history degree is useless.
It has no future in it. So there you go. That’s number one. That is pretty good. I must admit number two, I’m not a fan of elevator music. It’s bad on so many levels. So guys, number one, one a history degree is useless. It has no future in it. Number two, I’m not a fan of elevator music. It’s bad on so many levels.
Uh, I kind of know which way I’m leaning, but I wanna see which way you’re leaning. So again, hit us up. Let us know which one lands the best. Remember, eye rolls do count. That’s okay for when it comes to dad jokes. Okay. Now the question that we’ve talking about all week, how do you define masculinity? Again, a lot of times when you just hear that word masculinity has this, this, this, this negative vibe to it, just people just automatically bristle up.
It doesn’t have to be that. We talked about some very, uh, definitive things with Ryan around masculinity and what that looks like. Okay? So again, think about that. How would, how do you define it? Maybe how do you define it now that you’ve gone through this with, with, with, with us this week? So, again, guys, if you like this stuff, share it.
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Have some fun with it. So I pray you guys have a great weekend. Enjoy it. Hopefully it is nice wherever you’re at, uh, and, and, and that you’re able to spend some time with your family. I pray that you guys just remember people, you’re, you’re those around you, they’re watching. So be that leader that God intends you to be.
Every moment, every moment, count. So make it count today, guys. Have some fun this weekend. Get after it. Unleash the lion within.
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This weeks Health, Wealth and Self tips are all from Ryan’s new book and they are guaranteed to make an impact. Pay special attention to the self tip and then do some self reflection. Does this come naturally or is it now something you need to work on?
In true Fun Friday fashion there are two dad jokes that will get some smiles and eye rolls going!
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