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Where does Scripture and intimacy cross paths?
For a Lion we know they go hand in hand and this week was all about helping you build the strongest (and most intimate) marriages possible. It will not happen by mistake however with the right mindset and resources every marriage out there can be powerful.
We discussed intimacy, spontaneous vs responsive desire, and why we should allow God in the bedroom. Connect at a deeper level with our spouse and be proactive to bring that intensity back into our marriage. Click To TweetChris Grainger
That’s right, Scripture. So this week we’ve been in the book of Proverbs, chapter three verse three. Led love and faithfulness never. Bind them around your neck, write them on the tablet of your heart. Now guys, this a beautiful scripture. Go back to the spiritual kickoff if you missed it. I really unpack that.
I’ll unpacked a lot of different types of ver of words that can be, have been, uh, um, used interchangeably in this scripture here to give you some more insight into what this actually looks like. Cuz guys, this could be the, the, the cornerstone, the, the, the very fabric of a marriage. Love and faithfulness.
You know, truth, mercy, kindness. All these things tie together to have a wonderful covenant that we call marriage. Now, you missed the episode, our last episode, rather. You need to go back cuz you probably missed one of the most powerful conversations we’ve had on the line with Dennis. Okay guys, we talk in depth around intimacy, spontaneous, responsive desire.
Why we should allow God in the bedroom, you know, how we can actually connect at a deeper level with our spouse, how we can actually, when things are getting stale, what can we do to flip it, to be proactive, to bring that, that, that intensity back into our marriage. And guys, if the intensity is not there, if you’re just going through the motion motions, if you just have a roommate, That you’re, financially it makes sense, but outside of finances, you’re not having that sexual connection.
There is hope, but it’s not going to fix itself. It’s episodes like that and conversations like we had with JD that are going move to ball for you. It’s going help you get off center and actually start making improvements, but I can’t do it for you. You gotta take action. And again, I’ll give you that, that resource, the line within dot.
Slash sex. Go check that out. There’s tons of resources, but that, but that exploration list that JD talked about, guys, I’m telling you, it would be a way for you and your wife to have a wonderful connection, a conversation. It’d be a fun, uh, exercise just to do together, to take the time. Don’t feel embarrassed, don’t feel like, you know, what, if I, if I had this conversation, it, it proves or says, it confirms that, you know what, there’s something.
You just gotta lean into it. You know, there for, for, for me and my wife, we just wanted to find resources to make things better. Nothing to say that nothing’s wrong. We just, were always trying to be a little bit better every day. Cause we don’t want a good marriage. We want an amazing marriage. A a phenomenal marriage.
Just a fantastic marriage. And I want the same for you guys. So go check out that episode. I’m telling you, there’s, there’s resources, there’s there’s conversations, there’s little nuggets that JD gave us that you’ll be able to take lean into and apply that will make a big impact in your marriage for years to come.
So guys, I hope you enjoyed that one. Now, you know, for the fun Fridays, I’m gonna give you a health wealth and a self tip, right? So let’s just jump right in. For the health tip, I want you to work out with your wife, okay? Be careful here. That doesn’t mean that she needs to go through your workout, okay? You probably are gonna have to adjust your routine, and then you need to see what she actually enjoys.
Okay? Now she goes, She’s into yoga or walking. Guess what? Buttercup, you need to get into yoga and walking. You know, but just be intentional about spending that time with her while getting ha while getting healthy. I mean, it’s a win-win guys. Now she enjoys running and you don’t enjoy running. Well guess what?
Time to go running. Cause it’s a great opportunity for you and her to have that connection. To have just in conversation, you know, when you’re working out, don’t just plug in your, your, your, your earphones and just go like you normally would’ve. Did Jim maybe leave those? Have conversation talk, but maybe that that workout is not as intense as you normally would have it, but the opportunity to connect with your wife is very, very important.
So don’t miss it. This is a great way, great way to even have further communication. And you know what? Since we this week’s been talking about sex and things like that, you know what? A lot of times to work out clothes she’s wearing, let her know she looks good at him, flirt with. You know, have some times while you’re working out to make her just feel, wanted to feel desired.
Guys, there’s just so much benefit that comes with spending time together, but working out with your wife is a really great tip that I think more guys need to consider and lean into. Now, the wealth tip now, remember on, on Wednesday, I told you the wealth tip this week. You don’t wanna miss it. It’s very simple.
It’s three words. Commas require conversation. Okay. What do I mean? I wanna try, I’m trying to save you some late nights. Okay, guys, Where, where you’re in a doghouse before you make a purchase or a buying decision. And if that thing has a comma in it, okay? Most of us will consider that significant. Their needs be, be, uh, communication.
You gotta have a conversation over this. If it’s something that’s budgeted and you guys already in alignment and you know that, hey, we’re gonna spend this money here, that’s different. Okay, I get that. But look, there’s no shame in telling someone, but maybe you’re being, you got a sales pitch coming at you, You got people that’s throwing stuff at you.
You know what? I need to review this with my wife. Okay? I actually use this phrase that commas require conversations this week. This. And the salesman thought it was great. And you know what? He couldn’t push it anymore. Cause he knew in that moment he was not getting a decision because it was, quite frankly, it was something for amount of money that we de, we determined we’re gonna have conversations.
Now, for us it’s, it’s below a comma. Usually we’re around that $500 range, three to $500. We’re gonna have a conversation. We’re not just gonna spend that money, but we also have a very defined budget and we also know, okay, this is in the budget. We had the freedom do it. That’s again why it’s so, so important guys to have a budget and actually stick to it.
But if you get those rare cases where you’re, you’re amped up and you’re excited, and that sales guy has got you going, and that gun feels so good in your hand, or that steering wheel feels so good in your hand, whatever, Slow down commas require conversation. Remember, All right, guys, that was your tip. I, that you save that and write it down, whatever you need to do.
But I promise you, if you, if you apply that to your life, you’re gonna make things so much easier for you, guaranteed. Now your self tip, okay? I want you to plan an evening or, or a trip, maybe a weekend getaway. And here’s the deal. Here’s what I want you to do. Do not tell your wife where you’re going. Keep her in the dark.
Make the entire event an a. You know, show her that you care by the effort you put into making you know the plans, right? And then have some fun with it, right? You gotta memory, guys. Marriage is fun. Whoever said it wasn’t fun is not doing it right. So there’s an opportunity here. Plan something. And again, it doesn’t have to be extravagant, but just in evening, maybe it is a little weekend, get.
But the cool part is don’t tell her The last one that my, my wife and I did. We didn’t, I didn’t tell her. We ended up going to the outer banks. Had a great time. She had no clue. All she knew was she was gonna get in the car. We were going for a trip and it was the most fun we’ve had in a long time. Just because, you know what?
There was, there was this level of, of a denture to it because she didn’t know the plans. Now, to my credit, just a hundred percent honest with you guys, I didn’t actually plan that the entire weekend either. I wanted some things just to happen, you know, organically just, just, Hey, let’s go try this. Let’s go try this.
I didn’t wanna plan it out to a tea, so don’t feel like you had to plan out, you know, 8:00 AM here, 10 here. No, don’t do that. But maybe the agenda or a couple big bucket items, you know, throughout, throughout that trip, whatever. But take the time to actually plan some of this out. Cause that’s gonna show her that you.
I tell you what guys, that sense of adventure, that, that, that is something that they, our, our spouses, they, they want this, they desire it, and it shows them so much, particularly that you care about them, about your marriage, and it’s an investment that you can go wrong with. All right guys, throw your tips, your health tip, work out with your wife.
Wealth tip commas, require conversations. Self tip, plan that adventure, and do not tell. Do not tell her. Okay? So use those apply. Let me know which ones work, let me know which ones, uh, what, what tip, uh, how that, how that helps you. That’d be great. Also, if you have a tip, a health, wealth or self tip that we should use on the line within us, email us at support the line within.us and I will, if I use it, I’ll give you a shout out on the show.
Will definitely give you all the credit, and I know the guys that are listening will be blessed. Now the book of the week this week is actually called Keep Your Love On, and it says, Connection, Communication, and Boundaries by Danny Silk. Now, this book was recommended to me by jd. Okay? When I was talking to jd, I’m like, Look, JD I, I’ll do a book every week for recommendations for our guys for this week, which, what’s the topic that you’re talking about?
What do the guys need to be listening? What should they be reading? He’s like, Oh, bro, easy. Keep your love on. Read this book. Loved it. It’s very practical. Again, he talks about communication, connection, and boundaries, and he really gives some insight into what that looks like. And again, this is really written from a, a, a Christian standpoint.
So there’s scriptures in here that, that he points to, uh, that the author points to you rather, gives you a really good understanding of, of what the foundation of a solid marriage and what intimacy can look like. Check that one out. Keep your Love on by Danny Silk. Again, check out the, the, the, the links in the show notes, uh, book of the week line within us four slash book.
You’ll be able to get that right there. Now to Dad jokes for this week, dad joked, number one, my wife trauma dramatically ripped the blankets off me last night, but I will recover . So there you go. That’s number one. Number two, I broke up with a girl years ago because of her obsession with count. I wonder what she’s up to these days.
So there you go, guys. To me, as a toss up this week, I must admit. So I’m very curious to hear what your, what the votes are gonna be. Number one, my wife trauma dramatically ripped the blankets off me last night, but I will recover. Number two, I broke up with a girl years ago because of her obsession with counting.
I wonder what she’s up to these days. So again, let us know, voting into comments. Let us, uh, which one, you know, works at home. Remember, I rolls count. And again, if you have a dead joke we need to use, submit that in same email address, support act the line with us. If we use your dad joke, I will give you credit.
I’ll give you a shout out on the podcast and, uh, we’ll try to get some good, some good lasts out there going, guys. Now the, the question we’ve been talking about all week, where does scripture and intimacy cross path? I’m gonna tell you what, it crosses path in a many, many ways. So go open your copy of God’s Word, dig into it, find that out.
But you need to be cultivating intimacy in your life and and your marriage rather so important. So important. If you don’t have it, that’s okay. There are resources out there. Go check out this, the show notes again, or the resources for jds exploration list. Guys, there are resources that help are gonna help your.
Just grow in, in areas that are so important. And intimacy is important. Do not miss it. So again, if this week impacted you and it helps you in your journey, share it with someone. Just share episode. That’s all I ask. Give us a rating and review. Uh, that would help tremendously. Maybe you wanna be a monthly donor.
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From the bottom of my heart, there’s so many other podcasts you could be listening to, but you took the time to listen to the line within us, So I’m so thankful, So, so grateful. Have a great weekend. Get after it. Have some fun in that bedroom, and unleash the lion within.
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In true Fun Friday fashion we have Health, Wealth and Self tips that are designed to help you take action. Pay attention to the Self tip as this will help you build that intimacy that you want with the one that means the most!
Let us know what dad joke lands best and be sure to grab a copy of the book of the week to add to your library.
As Lions you should strive for a healthy level of intimacy in your marriage and this week’s conversations were designed to help you simplify and apply God’s Word to build powerful intimacy the way He desires.
Now put these ideas into practice and unleash the Lion Within!
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