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Would you let others speak to you the way you speak to yourself?
The mirror does not have to be the enemy. The focus for this week has been around the words we say to ourselves and the power they have. If you find yourself struggling to find anything good to say remember that is not from the Spirit. Apply some of the lessons shared this week and start seeing the change it can make.
Every day when you get up, you should always start the first part of your day praising God. Click To Tweet Chris Grainger
I pray that it’s been special to you now that if we spend some time really digging into it, but Romans eight, one, the. There’s now no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus. Guys, you are knocking down. So if you missed the episode, the, the previous episode, rather go back and check it out. Okay? I spent a lot of time unpacking this idea of self-talk, what that looks like, how we got about 150,000 nose before we turn 18, how 77% of the time we think about stuff is negative, right?
And then we started talking. I spent a lot of time talking about five levels of self. How do you start self-talk and make it an impact? What do you do to actually turn this into action? Okay. And, and, and, and recognize when it happens, the power of taking control of those thoughts and flipping them to a positive outcome.
Okay, so again, I talked a lot about the power of who you’re listening to, how that can in influence you and how, why you need a community. So again, go back and check that one out. And again, if you haven’t checked out our community, what are you waiting on? Seriously, make that happen because on that last episode, I shared those declarations that came from my brother Dwayne.
He, he shared those with the community. I asked for his permission. He said, absolutely, roll it out. So there was a ton of declarations out there, guys, that we can start speaking over ourselves on a daily basis that will make an. Okay. So again, go back and check that episode. I had a lot of fun doing that one.
That’s a, that was a solo that, that, uh, you know, I, I felt like there was some really good truths that, the things that I had learned, and I, that’s what this podcast is all about. Just sharing and helping you guys grow, develop a deeper relationship with Jesus Christ. Be that leader that you’re God intends you to be.
You know all these things. And we gotta start speaking these truths to ourself. So now let’s get to our fun Friday tips. We got a health tip, wealth tip, and a self tip. Now these all relate directly to the idea self-talk. Okay? So let’s get into our health tip. Our health tips gonna be, I want you to write an affirmation list.
Okay? Now mention this in a previous episode, but actually do it. Write an affirmation. And then starts speaking it daily. Now, why should you do this? Because there is power in your words, and there’s power in in your speech. And when you write it down, you’re gonna do a huge favor for yourself because you’re gonna actually move this ball down the field.
So write ’em. I’m a great husband, I’m a great dad. I’m a great leader. I’m a great businessman. Uh, I’m a hard worker. I’m in. I, I’m, I, I am healthy. I am not fat. I am successful. Start, start writing these things down. Then every day when you get up, get up. I think you should always finish for your first part of your day, praising God, but at some point, speak these out.
And I’m not talking about, just read them to yourself. No, don’t do that. Speak ’em out. Your ears. Need to hear your mouth say these words. Okay. I am successful. I am a child of God. I am fearfully and wonderfully made. Start speaking those affirmations. Go back and listen to that previous episode. I gave you a whole list of these that you could roll right through.
I am blessed. I’m a child of God, all these different ones. I am not alone. All those start. Speaking of mouse, there’s your health tip cuz it’s all about the mind guys getting the mind sharp. Now your wealth tip, this is a little bit different. I was trying to think about the best way to do it and so the only way I know to do stuff is just right on the nose.
So anybody rub you guys? Some of you guys wrong, but that’s okay. Your wealth tip is, I want you to get out of that poverty mindset. Get out of the poverty mindset. I’m so tired of guys talking about I’m, I don’t have any money. I’m broke all these things and look, I gotta start doing this myself, cuz I mean, there’s some things that, that are holding me back from making some changes because I’m scared of go going into poverty.
But the poverty mindset will hold you back. It is not productive. Christians should be, uh, striving to make, to earn the most. To be, to have that life of abundance. Why? So we can glorify God, so we can glorify him. You can’t do that if you’re broke and you, you won’t be able to do the things that God’s that you wanna do, that you feel like God’s calling you to do.
Cause you’re bro, you’re broke. You gotta get outta that poverty mindset. And I see this way too often in the. And within, not, not just my church and churches in general, that we see this, this poverty mindset. People sometimes think about your, uh, your, your Sunday church, your Sunday crowd at a restaurant.
Why is that the most avoided, um, time shift for people who work in the food industry? It’s because it’s terrible. Cause the Christians, they come, come in from, And they’re stingy. They don’t tip well, they’re rude. You go look it up. That Sunday afternoon after church crowd is the most avoided crowd for people who work, work in food service.
And it should be the most coveted time. Why? Because we should be the most generous people, the most loving, most caring, the most forgiving people out there, period. And it’s just not. So guys gotta gotta flip that. So get out of that poverty mindset. Look, I get it. You know, maybe you wanna live a simpler life, but still stack that cheddar and go use it to build a kingdom.
There’s nothing wrong with that. And someone who tells you that it’s wrong, they’re lying to you. You know, my recent conversation with Riley, he talked about the good Samaritan. The Samaritan was able to help. Why? Because he had some money. He was able to do something because he had funds available. And if you don’t have funds available, you gotta get to.
Bible toss, I think 20, 23, 2500 times about money. Why did God spend that much time talking about a money and money and wealth? Cause he knows what’s wrong with our hearts and he wants to make sure where it’s important for us, but we need to get after it and do all we can to glorify him. All right. Now your self tip.
Now this is gonna go for, for wives and kids, but I want you to think about specifically, specifically for your wife. This. Start speaking positive self-talk to your wife. Okay? And I’m not talking about when you feel like you it, it is that time. You ready? You ready to to to move at, to, to the intimacy? No.
No, no. Cause then you’re doing it wrong. Intentions. Sp start speaking positive Self-talk to her at all times. At all times. She needs to know she’s a wonderful wife. If she’s a mom and she’s a wonderful mother, how honored you are to be her. How much of a hard worker she is, how she does a great job around the house.
How, how she does a great job with your, with your kids, how you can always count on her, how much you appreciate the fact that she’s there for you. She needs to hear these things, guys. Right? Send, use the text thing too. Drop a text every now and then just, Hey, I appreciate you. How awesome. It’s an honor to be your.
I just want you to know I’m thinking about you and that you are loved at this very moment. Little things like that. So go ahead and send that text right now. You don’t have to tell ’em when Chris told you to do it, but send her a text. Just a positive affirmation, something that you find just valuable about her.
You need to start sharing that with her more often. They need to hear it. We need to hear it. And as leaders, as men, time to start stepping up and. That means taking action. So send that out, send that to her. Let her know it’s one thing just to have it in your heart and or your head. But man, speak it out.
Let her know right now, start speaking that positive self-talk to her, and I promise you guys, it’s gonna have a huge impact on your relationship. So there you go. There are your three tips. Guys. You got your health tip. I want you to get that affirmation list going. Okay? Get that going. If you want to send that affirmation list into support at the line within us, we’ll probably try to try, we may even try to compile a big list and put it out there for you guys.
So if you got an affirmation list, support at the line within N Us or go ahead and join the community. You can drop it in there like Dwayne did, and that will help so many guys. That wealth tip, stop having a living in poverty mindset. Stop. Now we don’t preach prosperity, nor do we preach. Preach, uh, poverty gospel here guys.
We preach Jesus. Now, we also know that to serve him, we wanna do all we can to build the kingdom. And that takes resources. So get out of that poverty mindset. Now, your self tip. Start speaking that positive self-talk to your spouse. If you wanna go ahead and roll this a little bit further, start speaking it to your children as well.
But we really need to be super intentional about how we speak to our spouse. Because if our children see us, okay, if they see us speaking this positive self-talk to our spouses, that’s going to impact them too. Now, don’t miss the opportunity. There’s an opportunity to to share. Share with them positive self-talk.
Do it for sure. But I want you focusing right now on positive self-Talk to your spouse. Take action. Send that text, make that phone. Put it in, put it, put it into action and make it, make it, make it be okay. Alright. Now let’s move for our book of the week. Our book of the week is the one I spent talking about all week this week.
What to say when you talk to yourself. Highly recommend this book. It’s great. It’s got a lot of good resources in here. Definitely think it’s worthwhile. Um, you know, I’m not sure when this was actually the original. I think it came out like in the eighties or something like that, but, uh, this is a phenomenal.
There are a lot of, there are a lot of of stories that connected well with many lot of examples. So hopefully, you know, that will serve you guys well. You can go check out our links and the show notes there too, if you wanna grab you a copy of that. So, uh, what to say when you talk to yourself. So now our dad jokes.
Let’s get to those for our fun Friday. So we’ve got two dad jokes for you and both of them have been submitted by members of our community. So our first one is, what do you feed your baby if you want them to grow up to be a race car driver? Formula One . There you go. That was submitted by Doug Whi Mills.
Doug Mills. He is in our community. Happy to have Doug here is a great guy. Uh, he shows up to a lot of our events and we just we’re so blessed to have him with us. So, uh, thank you Doug, for submitting that one. Uh, dad joke number two, Dennis always asks dumb questions like, when was the last time you flossed?
I’m like, You were there. So that was submitted by James Chapman. He’s new to our community. He joined recently and, uh, put a request out for some dad jokes. James jumped in with two or three actually, so he, this was a really good one, so just blessed to have him here. So that’s submitted by James Chapman.
Thank you brother James for that one. So number one, what do you feed your baby if you want them to grow to be a race car driver formula than one? Of course. And number two, Dennis will always ask dumb questions like, when was the last time you floss? I’m like, bro, you were there. So there you go. Let us know.
Which number one, number one, number two. Which one Lance best. Remember? Eye rolls count, guys. So the question I want you to think about, talked about it all week this week. This is an important question to ask yourself. Would you let others speak to you the way you speak to yourself? I’m telling you guys, this is an important one to know.
Cause I guarantee you, you probably wouldn’t. I know I wouldn’t. So you gotta start recognizing that and making a change. So guys, I pray to serve you well. I pray you enjoyed this fun Friday. These tips help you. The dad jokes, all that fun stuff. You gotta get in the community guys, you gotta take action.
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Take that action. So I look forward to serving you guys next week. I pray this serves you well. Again, the lion within us for all our resources to connect with our community. Hopefully you guys have a wonderful weekend. Remember, capture those dots and that there’s no combination for those during Christ Jesus.
Love it. Love it. Get it after it, guys. We’ll see you next week for our next spiritual kickoff, and do not forget to unleash the. Within.
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In true Fun Friday fashion there are health, wealth and self tips that will serve you well. Lean into the self tip and watch the impact that can have on your marriage. Let us know what dad joke lands best and big shout outs to James and Doug from our Lion Within Us community for the submittals.
Book of the week: What to Say When You Talk to Your Self by Shad Helmstetter
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