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Counseling is not just for when the barn is on fire.
This week we dove deep into how we can all grow as Christian leaders by strengthening our minds. Sometimes that strength comes from the wise counsel of others.
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This week’s scripture’s been first Corinthians nine. 22 and 23. So first Corinthians 9 22 and 23 to the week I became weak that I might gain the weak. I’ve become all things to all people. So that I may be, by all means, save some. I do all things for the sake of the gospel so that I may become a fellow partaker of it.
And guys, go back to the spiritual kickoff. Cause the question is, are you doing all things for the sake of the gospel? And yeah, sometimes that means we’re gonna have to be. You know what, if we do that, we can gain the weak and you’re not gonna take anything to heaven, other people. So that’s what we need to be striving for every day.
Okay. Sharing the gospel. And being that fellow partaker of it. Walk it out. Let’s show it now. If you missed the meat episode on Wednesday, go back, check it out. We had John Sullivan on. He talked about, uh, therapy, masculinity, things to consider with both guys. I’m gonna tell you what, it was a really powerful conversation.
Couple things. We talked about equal peels and prayers. You have all those three things and they all three have a place. You need to understand, you know, the different levels of what of, of what can serve you the best. Now, we’ve talked about how it can be difficult to find a right therapist, and that personal connection is so important.
So important guys. So if you ever went to therapy before and it didn’t work, you know what? Maybe you just didn’t have the right therapist. That’s okay. They’re not. You know, we’re, we’re not gonna always gel with everybody. We’re gonna have differences and that’s okay. So just need to understand that. But guys, he talked about making withdrawals versus deposits in our marriages, and we need to keep that in mind.
How often are we putting that deposit in our marriage to help us grow? We need to do that cuz if we’re, we’re just constantly taking stuff out guys, we’re not gonna be able to grow and do the things God has called us to. But ultimately it’s about our mental health and we need to understand that emotions are good guys.
We’re going to have these emotions, how we process them. This is different, you know, if it always comes out as anger, we need some help with that. And you can be so far into battle that you just can’t see the enemy. And that’s what I’m trying to warn. You all don’t be so far in that you don’t see the enemy that’s surround.
So guys, get after it there. Let’s jump right in to our health tip, wealth tip and self tip this week. Okay? So for your health tip, I want you to do one thing. Stop the spiraling of negative thoughts with the truth and lie list. Okay? Now, I, I, I brought this up inside our, our community a while back, and I wanted to share this with you guys.
So when Satan’s attacking and he is going to attack, get out a piece of paper just. And just write down that negative thought, whatever that negative thought is, then I want you to make two columns, a truth column and a lie column, and start listing things in in both, and then speak those truths over yourself and recognize the lies for what they are, their lies.
The Holy Spirit will never give you thoughts to tear you down. I had a brother of mine, Steven, he told me that one time. He said, look, bro, that’s not from the spirit, that is from Satan, and we need to remember that Satan is c. You need to make, take actions so that you can rebuke those thoughts. Okay? And the best way to battle and rebuke those thoughts is with what?
Truth. Truth. So write the truth now. Guys I struggled with this directly of, of, of, particularly around the community and, you know, do people really wanna join in? Nobody’s gonna join all these things with line within us. So I just wrote down all the truths about all the, the, the different guys that have joined, the value that has brought them, how they’re showing up to the line lunches, how they’re showing up to our live events, how they’re showing up, uh, to the Bible study, how they’re showing up, uh, for a daily scripture, how they’re posting and engaging.
I wrote down all those truths and, and I know what I looked at the lie list. I. That’s, that’s crap there, man. That’s lies. I’m gonna lean in on the truth. And then at that point I stop and can stop that negative, those negative thoughts. And we’re gonna have ’em, guys, Saint’s gonna throw these negative thoughts at us.
He’s gonna constantly do it. Maybe you’re dealing with, uh, with, with just some items that are hitting you that you feel like, you know what? I’m inferior. I can’t figure this out. I’m not good enough. I’m an imposter. Whatever it is. All those negative thoughts are from Satan. Stop it. Make you a truth. Lies column, lies list rather.
And just start speaking those truths into your life. Now wealth tip. This one came directly from our community cuz we, we were in a Bible study one night and I just thought this was too good not to share. But look, when you’re not in alignment with your wife on finances, I want you to do one thing. Pray for unity.
I don’t want you to pray for, for your way. Pray with unity. And here’s the trick. Do it with her. Okay. There was a, a gentleman, he’s in our community right now. He, he’s one of our, our great members. He’s talking about the issue of co-signing. Co-signing a note. Okay. And this happened to be co-signing a note for a, a child.
And he was against it. His wife was, Okay. And it was creating some division and he was wanting to some insight from the group that was meeting that night on what to do. And I said, look man, for me, it’d be all about praying for Unity in the situation. And you know, for, it’s not about you being right or her being right or you being wrong, or her, me, it doesn’t matter.
Ultimately, Satan’s using this topic, this co-signing topic as a division point, and you gotta head that off. So at that point, you know, if you go to an with a humble prayer, Hey honey can, let’s pray together and just go to him, to the Lord humbly, Lord, my wife and I are not in alignment on this. Whatever this is, help us be in unity.
Reveal to us your will, not ours. Because ultimately, Lord, we want your will to prevail. And if you do a prayer like that, and now it’s a simple little example, a, a simple prayer like. There’s so much power that that’s gonna heal your marriage and bring you together, you and your wife. But that takes intentional actions.
It also takes being a little bit uncomfortable. Like that’s not easy to do. I totally get that. But you need to lean in and try the uncomfortable things if you really want to grow. So pray for that unity now, your self tip. Mm-hmm. , this is one that I talked with John about a little bit, but this is really important.
Counseling is not just for when the barn is on. It’s not, we want our marriages to be phenomenal, not just good. There’s a book, has a whole business book out there called Good to Great and it talks about how the great, the businesses, the great businesses of the world, how they made that next step, right, where it’s just they didn’t settle for mediocrity, they wanted greatness, and that’s what you want.
As I mentioned earlier, that’s counseling has helped me and my wife connect in many areas. That outside perspective is so important. Again, when you’re just like we talked about with the health tip there, when you’re in the game, it can be hard to see what’s going on, but if you have someone who can bring you new ideas and thoughts and questions, solutions to the table, man, it brings such power to your relationship and you don’t have to do it all.
You have to think of it all on your. And so many guys think, and this, and John and I talked about this a little bit. I’m wanna show, read it. I’m gonna double down on this. That if you go down to, if you go to marriage counseling, that means your marriage is doomed. Guys, that is so backwards thinking. I want you to think about it as steps you’re taking to build something incredible.
It cannot be torn down cause you are doing the work ahead of time to ensure. So if your, if your marriage is a Lamborghini and that thing is rocking and rolling, it is perfect. Guess what? That Lamborghini still needs some service from time to time, right? You just going drive the thing every day. You gonna have to bring it in and service that as well.
And that’s how you could view this. So take the action now and I’ll, and keep building a powerful marriage that ultimately glorifies. That’s what it’s about. We’re about glorifying God in our marriages. So here’s your three tips, boys hell tip, wealth tip, self tip, hell tip. Stop those, uh, those negative thoughts with that truth and lies list.
Wealth tip, when you hang, not in alignment on those finances. Pray for unity and do it together. And self tip counseling is not just for when the barn is on. Get ahead. Be proactive, guys. I’m telling you. Take action on this now book of the week. John mentioned some other resources as well, but I wanted to bring up this book.
Okay. This one’s called, uh, 10 Days of Self-Esteem. It’s by David D. Burns. Uh, great. Resources here is 10 steps that help you defeat depression, develop self-esteem, and the sever discreet, the secrets of joy in daily living. This is a book I’ve went through myself. It’s been a great book, a great resource, a lot of different ways to, to help you stop those negative thoughts.
You know, he, uh, John mentioned, you know, at C B T therapy, this kind of is all in the line with that. Uh, but ultimately capturing those thoughts, some resources, some tools, some. Practices that you can put in place. So go check out the, the show notes. We’ll have a link to our book of the week. Guys, I think you really enjoyed this one.
Uh, this is a good resource. Again, it’s a practical thing too where you, when you sit down with this, like when I sit down with this, you need to have a pen or a pencil, uh, clear your mind, sit down and work through it cuz it’s kinda like a workbook. Okay? So it’s, it is, it is something you can. It’s more effective when you actually sit down and do the work.
Okay? If that makes sense. So there’s your resource for the week, for the book of the week, from the line with Dennis right there. Now let’s get down to what I, a lot of you guys enjoy your dad jokes. It’s got two dad jokes for you today. Alright, first dad jokes. This is more for your techie guys. Okay? So it’s dad joke number one.
I put a band together called 9 9 999 megabytes. Still don’t have a gig though, so if you guys don’t get that, That’s more for your, your engineer techs like myself that, you know, I got a pr a pretty good chuckle out of that one. Number two, dad, can you tell me what a solar eclipse is? No. Son, so, so there you go guys.
Ned joke number one. I put a band together called 999 megabits. Still don’t have a gig though. Number two. Dad, can you tell me what a solar eclipse is? No. Let me know which one works. Again, I rolls count. Totally get it. But guys, it’s all about just having a little bit of fun on this fun Friday. So hopefully you guys enjoyed that.
Uh, again, share with us your thoughts and if you have a dad joke, you wanna submit it, join the community, submit it, and if I, if once you do that, we’ll give you a, a shout out on the podcast. So the question I, we gonna talk about all week, our men in therapy week, do you view that as weakness? I really hope this week we changed the mind of a few of you guys.
And that you don’t view this as a weakness. Therapy is great. It’s a, it’s a resource that can help, need to make sure we vet people cuz John talked about that. You know, we gotta make sure we vet it correctly. So we need to be a good, strong, um, making sure we’re making good sound decisions when it comes to who we work with.
But these are great resources that help us. So again, this Fun Friday helped you, I pray you share with someone else. Seriously, just share with someone. Send a text message, give us a five star rating. Write a review. You haven’t done those two things. What are you waiting on? Seriously, those are things help big time.
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We we’re gonna put you in a small group setting where you can connect with some more guys one-on-one versus the big overall group. I’m tell you what, we have the resources available to serve you. We also have topics in areas divorce, depression. Outdoor enthusiast mental health, getting, you know, strength training, weight loss.
Guys, we’re touching everything. Health, well, self helping you be the leader God intends you to be. And we have experts inside a community who help you in each one of these areas. So no matter what these, what you have going on, there are people within the community that are here to serve you, but the only way you’re gonna have access to ’em, guys, you gotta take.
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In this Fun Friday Chris shares insights learned from his time with John Sullivan. In true Fun Friday fashion there are health, wealth and self tips that are designed to serve you well. Consider the self tip and share this idea with your wife.
Book of the week: Ten Days to Self-Esteem by by David D Burns M.D.
As always there are a few dad jokes that should get a chuckle or eye roll!
Take care of your mental state so that you can do the battle you are called to. That’s how you unleash the Lion Within!
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