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Happiness is in your circumstances – joy is from God.
In this Fun Friday episode Chris unpacks some of the takeaways from his time with Stephen Kirby. Losing a son is something that permanently scars your heart. Hearing how he is using his situation to point others to Jesus is incredible.
If you can take something as painful as losing a child and somehow glorify God in it and find ways to love on others through that hurt, there's immense beauty in that. Click To Tweet Chris Grainger
For sure. We’re gonna jump in today, we’re gonna try to share, share some tips that hopefully serve you well, but we’re gonna start, like we start every. Right out in scriptures, this week’s scriptures right out of of Hebrews chapter two. So Hebrews chapter two, verse 10, for is fitting for him, for whom are all things and through whom are all things, and bringing many sons to glory, to perfect.
The author of their salvation through sufferings. So guys, I prayed, she go back and listen to the spiritual kickoff. Really tried to spend some time in that SKO to, to give you some insight on what that looks like, what those sufferings looked like, and how we can take those sufferings that we have and ultimately glorify God.
That’s what it’s about. And if you missed the last episode, I would just highly encourage you, you know, I say this every fun Friday. Go back and listen, but I’m serious. This is a conversation that was very difficult for us to, to put out. We, we had a lot of prayer over it, but we had Stephen Kirby, a, a friend of mine, uh, of, of our family.
We were friends with him and his wife, joy, uh, and they had a, they tragically lost their son and, uh, a year or so ago, and it was 18 months at the time of this recording. And I thought it was important to tell that story because first of all, there’s just no pain, like kid. and there’s so many of, of you out there who have suffered something like this or you’ve gone through child loss.
And, um, if you can take something as, as, as painful as losing a child and somehow glorify God in it and find ways to love on others through that hurt, through that pain there, there’s beauty in that. Stephen, he, he just wraps it up so beautiful. Back then when, when PE he says, people ask me all the time, I’m like, how do you get outta bed?
How does Joy get, keep moving. I’m like, how do you guys just keep, move forward after you’ve lost your son the way you he did? And and two words. Two words he said, but God. So guys, if you remember anything from that conversation, just remember, but God, because God, he can do the things that we can’t even put, wrap our heads.
We can’t even wrap our heads and start to think about the stuff that he can do. He’s already done it. He can figure it out. So just lean on him. So I pray that you go back and listen that, and that’s definitely one of the most heartfelt episodes of the line within us that we’ve ever put out. Uh, a lot of, again, a lot of prayer to get that out.
We wanted to make sure we honored, uh, first of all glorified God in it, but then honor Stephen and Joy and, and ultimately Matthew, uh, in that. So prayerfully guys that you, you, you, you had a chance to listen. I know it’s a long wind, it’s a more of a , a Joe Rogan Link podcast. But, uh, I seriously go back, check it out, and hopefully that serves you well.
So for our fun Friday, we’re gonna get into some tips. You know, a health tip, a well tip, a self tip like we always do, and, uh, hopefully this guy’s, your, this will, this will serve you well. So the health tip, I thought I found this one was pretty cool, so I figured I’d share it with you guys. I, I found it on a website.
It’s something that I’ve started thinking about. Spending more time outside cuz I’m, I’m, I do all my work is primarily, primarily behind a, uh, a keyboard and, and microphone and a camera and things like that. But I thou I found this one. It’s called a 25 3 rule for nature. So get this 20 minutes a day, three times a week, okay?
Five hours a month, and then three days in accounting. That you want to spend time in nature. So 20 minutes a day, and that could be, and they say three times a week, five hours a month, and three days in a calendar year. That, that you want to actually get out and spend in nature. Now, I know some of you guys like targets, so man, this is a target you could shoot for.
Maybe you’re crushing it, right? You already do this. Great. But for you guys that aren’t there but that, that aren’t doing it, I would just challenge you to do this. Do 20 minutes daily instead of three times a week. Just do it. If you can’t actually get in nature and walk through the woods, cuz I, I get it.
A lot of our listeners, you, you guys now are not all in, you know, rural areas where you can get out and, and, and walk through the woods. Just go to a park, get outside. Right? How about in the five hours? Try to make that five hours a week. Maybe it’s a Saturday for me. That’s what I try to do. Saturday’s my day, I try to get outside and if, you know, if you can just get that a weekly habit, we’re on Saturday afternoons, I’m just gonna be outside.
That’s all I’m gonna worry about doing. Just I’m gonna be outside. That’s gonna do so much for you. And that three days is great, but the key to it, you gotta put it on the counter. Cuz if it gets planned, what it gets done, if it doesn’t get planned, it’s not gonna get done. Guys, I know who you, how you are because I’m the same way.
If I plan for it, I’ll, I’ll knock it out. If I don’t plan for it, it’s not going to. That’s a pretty cool rule. I thought it was, it was fun. It was from a men’s health article again, but it was a 25 3 rule. So, and try that if they, if you find that you’re not getting outside enough, put some of those parameters in place and see if there are some, if that could be a way to get you more intentional about time outside.
Now the wealth tip, this is actually another tip around real estate investment cuz I just picked up this book against Phenomenals called Wealth Habits by Candy Valentino. And she has so many good rules in it and tips and things like, And guys, I just think it’s good when I, when I come across good resources that, that seem solid in principle, I wanna share ’em with you.
But so her rule and that we’re talking about today is the 1% rule of investing in real estate. Okay? So the 1% rule is you basically, Eva, evaluate the cost of the property you’re investing in against the total revenue you expect it to provide. So basically what you have to do is see, okay, if, if I’m looking at for, for how much this property is gonna cost, If, let’s say it’s $500,000, then you would expect that you should be able to get a rent of $5,000 a month, right?
And if you look at that real quickly, that’s a, that’s a quick way that you can understand, is this a good buy? Is this a good investment or not? You know, and you can use that, that investing rule for two purposes. You can evaluate a property’s potential for profit before buying it, and you can use it as a guideline to figure out how much rent you should charge.
Cuz if you’re new to real, That is a question many people don’t know is like, well, what should I be charging for rent? Well, if you use that as a guideline, that’ll help direct you. And you know what, if you find it, you know what? That 1% is way too high, then that may not be a good investment. I’m not saying that’s always the case.
Everything has generalities for sure. But this is a good rule that you can, that you can apply just to kind of get you in the ballpark. Okay, now your self tip, this more align. Well, this self tip aligns more with the conversation with. And I take this tip to back to the episode we had where we talk about losing faith may, um, and, and how me and my wife walked through that season.
And the tip is very simple. Grieve with your wife, grieve with your wife. Too often we think that we have to be to rock and we need to remember who to rock Christ. Right? And I get it. That’s a noble thing to think that, you know, I gotta beat. But it’s not sustainable when those trials hit. You gotta remem remember that your emotions are real and suppressing them.
It doesn’t serve you and it definitely doesn’t serve her. You know? So when I go back and I think through faith and when we lost her, obviously we grieve tremendously over losing our daughter and we grieved a lot in that hotel and not the hotel in the hospital room together. The quiet delivery room that you guys hear me talking.
there was a lot of grief there and there was a lot of grief, you know, when we got home and told our daughters that they, we lost her sister, and there’s been grief ever since that that just, it comes in ways and you just need to understand, you know, her seeing you go through that pain and sharing that with her helps her.
It’s definitely, it’s definitely helped my wife. And just recently, uh, my wife was wearing a necklace and I recognize the necklace cause it’s the faith necklace. It’s the necklace she wears when she’s missing her. And we have a blanket down whenever see this blanket as well. I know she’s thinking about faith, but she was wearing his necklace that day and I said, Hey, she wearing, she, this is my faith necklace and I’m missing her a lot today.
For some reason I just said, you know what, I get it. I miss her. Just for that couple minutes, she knew that her pain was something that I recognized. So take the time to grieve with your wife and maybe you haven’t walked through the, the loss of a, of a child, and I pray you have it, but could be something else.
Right. But whatever that that loss is, if it’s important to her, she’s grieving, grieve with her. Okay. Just remember. So there are your three tips, guys. Your health tip, the 25 3 rule for nature. Basically, bottom line, get your butt outside. Yeah, Chris said it. Get your butt outside. We need to do it more often.
Matter of fact, when I finish, this mic goes off cold and I can say we’re done on this one. I’m going outside your wealth tip. Look at that 1% rule for investing for real estate. That’s a really good tip guys. You’re trying to figure out how much to charge for rent If you’re looking for rental. That 1% rule is a very simple way to book evaluation.
Hey, this is gonna cost this. 1% of this is this. Can I get that much rent for this property? There you go. In your self tip, grieve with your wife. Don’t miss that. Now, the book of the week, this week, just thinking through different books that, that have been impacting me, that, that I’ve really, I’ve read over the years, it’s been quite a while since I’ve read this book, but for some reason Holy Spirit was just, was, was pulling me to this.
I don’t have any other answer other than I, I Maybe this is something that, that you guys haven’t read before, and if you have read it, I encourage you to go back and read it again, but it’s, it’s called Knowing God. Okay. And it’s from j Packer. It’s, it’s, it’s a very well-known Christian book. But, uh, when I was thinking through Stephen, his story of how many times he had the peace of God in those moments, guys, that, that, that’s, that’s huge.
You know, and when a lot of times you know God and you get to know him deeper through those trials, through those, uh, those, those, those seasons of where you have to persevere and you’re tested, right? Just think about how the gold’s made and how the oysters made, like the pearls made right? Do that, those trials.
So just think. If you, if you’re trying to, if you’re struggling with knowing who God is, this could be a good resource. Obviously the Bible is the number one resource, but this could be the, the, uh, a good alternative to check out. So check out knowing God. Now, our dad jokes. We gotta have something. This’s been a heavy week.
Let’s, let’s, let’s try to end with some, with some, some lightness guys. So here we go. Dad. Joke number one. Yesterday at eight o’clock, it was very time consuming, especially when I went back for seconds, . So there you go. That was very pretty simple one for you to remember. Number two, my coworkers laughed. My jokes in person, but not in online meetings.
They said My jokes aren’t remotely funny. So there you go, guys. Number one. Yesterday at eight o’clock, it was very time consuming, especially when I went back for seconds. Number two, my coworkers laugh at my jokes in person, but not in online meetings. They say My jokes aren’t remotely funny. So let us know, number one.
Number two, if they get a eye roll that does count. Just keep that in mind your and your question that that was the week, this week that we’ve been talking about is how does suffering bring you closer to him? Guys, you’re going to go through suffering. It’s just the way the world we live. Does they pull you closer to God, push you further away.
And my prayer is through conversations like this week, hearing stories from Steven and Joy and how they, they’ve taken this tragedy and ultimately they, they’ve just grown closer and closer together as a couple, as one, but more importantly, closer. God, that’s what I pray, that this, this does for you. This serves you well.
So go get that. Hebrews two 10 cemented. Go back and listen to the episode, uh, with Steven. Apply some of these truths to your life guys, seriously, these tips and apply those and just lean in. So if you highly encourage you guys, give us a five star rating. Write a, write a review, connect with our community.
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In true Fun Friday fashion there are health, wealth and self tips that prayerfully help you in your journey. If you are going through a season of loss really lean in on the self tip and take that time with your wife.
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