In this episode:
Quality time is not a 15 minute block on your slammed calendar.
In this episode Chris explores a question his oldest daughter posed to him around “does quality time really exist”. This hit him hard and he took some time to unpack the idea of quality time and how Christian leaders could begin embracing the idea to truly make an impact in their lives. He explores areas such as:
- The value in learning how to say NO
- How to make personal quality time actually happen
- Ways to prioritize quality time with your spouse
- Ideas to help dads move from being in the room to being present
- Why being with other strong Christian men is a non-negotiable
How can you start turning that time into quality? Its through intentionality. Click To Tweet Chris Grainger
We’re actually this week we’re in the book of Haggai for chapter one, working at two verses verses five and six. And these are really powerful verses, guys, and they tie directly into what we’re gonna be talking about today. It says, now this is what the Lord Almighty says. Give careful thought to your ways.
Don’t miss that part to your ways. You have planted much but harvested little. You eat but never have enough. You drink but never have your field. You put on your clothes but are not warm. You earn wages only to put them in a purse with holes in it. So guys, that is powerful scripture. Maybe some of you guys, it sounds like, Hey man, that sounds like a lot of my kids, they eat, they never have enough.
Like you, they, they, they drink. They never get full. I, I totally tell you, I, I’m picking up what you’re putting down guys, but seriously, this is powerful scripture. If you missed a spiritual kickoff, go back, check that out. I really went through that and tried to give you some ways to how you can simplify and apply this to your life and understand God’s word is here for a reason.
It’s here to God and direct this fellow. So again, we’re gonna be talking about today, we’re be talking about quality time and does it even exist anymore? I mean, how did I even come up with this topic? You know, sometimes the spirit leads me stuff and sometimes the spirit gives me th stuff through others.
And this one actually came from my oldest daughter, Chloe, and she came up to me one day. She’s like, you know what, dad, I think you should do an episode about quality time. I’m like, what do you mean? She’s like, you should do something around, does quality time still exists? I’m like, why you should tell you that?
She’s like, well, cuz it’s just, it, it makes me wonder sometimes when I, when she talks to a lot of friends and things like that and, and people are so doggone busy. She’s like, I just. The idea of quality time, I like to know a little bit more about it. And I was like, okay, well let’s, let’s, let’s think about it.
So I, I started to, to really frame out how we could, could address this on the line within us to help give you guys some ideas of how to move from busy quality because busy is not quality. Cuz I get it, your schedules are jam-packed or nuts. But I’m gonna tell you what, just because busy does not mean you’re doing the stuff you’re being called to do.
So how can you start turning that into quality? And the only way I know to do it, guys, is through intentionality. We have to be super intentional about where we’re spending our time, about what we’re getting our mind share to, and, and, and guys, if we get our heads wrapped around, It’s gonna make a huge impact.
Okay. So I like to do, when I usually on, on talking about a topic, I like to go out there and just see what other people say. You know, just do a little research. And I always love to go to Google, old G to G go to Google, right? And Google says that quality time is this. It says quality time is time spent in giving another person’s wants undivided attention in order to strengthen a relationship, especially reference towards parents and their child or children.
Now I like that definition. Okay. I do, I’m not picking on Google here, but I think they probably could have stopped it after the, the part of now strengthen layer relationship. Cause I get, especially when they’re talking about working parents and their child or children, I thought that was interesting that they put that working parents in there, you know, uh, uh, uh, parents, just a parent, right?
They, but they, they not that working parents, but seriously. Time spent in giving another person wants undivided attention in order to strengthen their relationship. I think that’s a pretty good definition. Now, here’s the challenging part. Does that ever really happen? I mean, seriously, think about it guys.
What’s going on in out there? When we, when we sit down with people, we’re so distracted. We really are. We’re distracted by all the notifications. And again, we have smartphones that came out in 2012. So remember this is only 11 year old problem. Jan, I did call her a problem. This does happen where we have all these notifications that are getting pushed to us all the time.
You guys, you know, I talk about it a lot about having gone gone from a push to a pull mindset. It’s where you’re not constantly getting these notifications pushed to you, but you actually pull stuff when you need it. But it just, it’s been working against us for so long. We don’t really know how to give someone undivided attention.
I mean, think about it, when is the last time you sat down and truly gave someone some undivided, undivided attention? To build that strength in that relationship. Guys, until we can get our hands around this, we’re gonna really struggle. And God’s word right here, when, when he was talking to ha guy, well, he was telling us like, look, it’s not that you guys aren’t busy, it’s just that you guys aren’t focused on what you need to be focused on.
And it’s so easy to happen. It is so easy to happen. I mean, how in the world can we possibly be where our feet are? I, you, I know you’ve heard me say that before, but how do you do that? Because I can right there. I I’ve, I’ve been as guilty as anyone else to be sitting, I was sitting with, with, with, uh, Chloe actually, and she brought this up to me.
She asked me, she said, you know what? We have movie night. Can you not have your phone with your dad? I’m like, oh, why? She’s like, well, because when you have your phone with you, I, when things happen and, and you know, the line with Dennis, our community is always, things are happening. Guys are chiming in and chirping and sending messages.
She’s like, and it just. We, we know you’re not here. I’m like, well, Chloe, I’m here. She says, no, but you’re not here. And I’m like, well, you’re, you’re right. 100%. You’re right. You know, I repent it. I’m sorry. I told her that. Uh, and, and I put my phone up and I gotta be super intentional. For me, it’s, it’s a very slippery slope to just check one email.
The next thing you know, I’m in the community. Next thing I know, I’m checking our Instagram account. Next thing I know, you know, it just, it never stops. It never stops. So how can you be where your feet are? Well, you just need to be aware. You really have to be aware of your situation, of your surroundings and be super intentional about this, guys.
And it’s not just gonna happen overnight. I, I’m telling you, it’s gonna take some time, but it’s going, if you focus on this, if you make a commitment to, you know what, these people, whoever you’re with this person, it could just be someone at work. They deserve your respect, cuz God has put them right here for this situation.
So can you give them undivided attention to strengthen a relationship? Maybe you have some strained relationships in your, in your life right now. Maybe they’re strained because you’ve never been able to give them undivided attention. Maybe they felt that. Have you ever felt that? I’ve been in situations.
I know where I know people that I, they’re talking with me, but they ain’t there. You know, I’d like to pick on my, my, my, one of my buddies who works on me here at The Lion, you know, he’ll will be in meetings and cranking through stuff, cranking through stuff, and I’m like, uh, is now a good time to talk?
He’s like, oh, yeah. He’s typing away, typing away, typing away. And I know it’s not a good time to talk, so I just stop. And he’s the same way with me. I’m not, I’m just picking on him. I’m the same way where I’m, I’ll be in the middle of something, writing something, show notes or whatever it may be, and we’re on a, on a, on a teams or Google meet or what, or Google Meet meeting or whatever it is.
And, and I’m not getting, giving him my undivided attention. And we get the best work done. We move the ball down the field the furthest when we’re both locked in. We don’t have the distractions. And we can be right there with each other in sync thinking and, and, and, and, and growing, you know, growing our relationship, but also just growing the stuff, working on the stuff that we know is important.
But guys, it’s so common these days. How many of you guys, I know you, I know it’s true, have been in meetings and in those meetings you got people sitting in rural laptops or sitting on their phones or doing, or doing whatever they are, but they’re anywhere else besides that meeting. I know it’s true. I’ve lived it.
I see it. I know what’s up. I, I, I’ve been guilty of it. So I’m not just saying that. You know, this is other people here. Look, cuz I remember when you point a finger, you got three point back at you, right? It happens. I know what happens. So guys, I think it’s so important as we move through this type of day of quality time, I’m gonna break, I’m gonna break this down into four areas.
Personal, quality, time, spouse, quality time, child quality time. And then time with other men. Cause I really think that’s important to have that time with other men guys because as soon as, as if the line with that is, I have seen it day in and day out, the importance of having a relationship with other Christian men who can help you grow, be the leader God has called you to be.
Now, before we get into it much further, I wanna say one thing that I think somebody out there needs to hear. We as Christian men, as men in general, we need to learn to say no to things. Okay? And that may mean even good things. I think we’ve been so accustomed and attuned to just saying yes to everything.
Yes. And encounters get full. And, and, and look, I say yes to a lot of really good things. So not, I’m not saying all the things you say yes to are bad, but you have to be careful cuz if you don’t put those boundaries up, next thing you know, you’re, you’re getting pulled in so many different directions.
Quality time is is impossible. Because you’re stressed, you’re tired, you look at your counter and just makes you sick. You know, I know some people who color code their calendar and when they look at it, it just looks like a bag of Skittles threw up. Right? It’s just everywhere. It’s just nonsense. And you can’t ever take that time to, to just re rest and be still, and that thought of being still scares a lot of people.
They don’t want that. They don’t wanna be still and rest. They, they feel like if they, they’re busy, they’re being effective. And instead of reverse engineering that saying, you know what, busy’s not always good. Sometimes you need some time to sit and be still and think, how do you think episodes like this happen?
I have to block out time just where I can be still and think, okay, holy Spirit, what’s a message that the line within us listeners would want to hear that’s gonna help them grow? Right. And, and it’s hard, it’s hard to carve out that time because we stay some doggone busy. So learning how to say no, maybe we need to start saying no to some things with, uh, with sports with our kids.
Right. I totally get it. I’m, I’m with you too. We’re in middle of softball right now. It’s a, it is a busy season after softball, we get a break and we’re starting to be super intentional about what we say yes to cuz yes, sports are really great. I totally get it. I’m a sports guy. I grew up playing sports, but you gotta make sure it’s not gonna pull you away to work from the work that God’s called you to.
And also you need to be careful. It’s not pulling you away from your church family cuz it’s super important that we have that connection with our church family. It is very easy to get wrapped up in the busyness of these, of travel schedules and things like that. The next thing you know, you’re not, you can’t actually go be with your church family on Sundays.
And that’s a barrier or a hindrance for you. That may be an area that you need to prune out because I guarantee you, you, if, if, if they have talent, you work with them, things will happen for ’em. Okay? But running yourselves, ragged, just to, just to keep up with, with, with what’s going on out there in the sports world, I’m telling you guys, there’s so much of, there’s just such a better way.
And the Sabbath really needs to be that we need to take the time to just be down, chill out on the Sabbath. So, uh, guys, we’re gonna take a quick break and we’ll come back. We’re gonna start talking about what that personal quality time with God looks like.
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All right fellas, so let’s kind of get into it. So personal quality time. So when we start thinking about that, I immediately in my brain and, and the way the spirit speaks to me, I go to that time with God. Okay? Now, when you go to that time with God, be careful. This has been brought up in our community and it’s, we’re talking about be careful.
We’re not just checking boxes. Because I talk a lot in our community about our pride every day. And I’ve even brought this up. Somebody brought it up to me. Well, Chris, it’s, it’s almost like I do it just cause, you know, it’s a challenge and I need to do it, and I’m really honoring God in that. And it’s, and it’s worth discussing, it’s worth thinking about, you know, it’s not just about checking boxes, you know, that time with God, it should be sacred.
It should really be sacred to where you’re, you’re, you’re, you’re letting him speak to you. So it’s not just reading God’s word, it’s taking the time to let God do, do, do. And you intent and reveal to you the things that he desires. And that takes time. It just does. But you know what, I love my. I, I love Becca.
She is, she is something else. I I, I, when we were dating, I was pursuing her. I wanted to spend time with her. You didn’t have to ask me if I wanted to spend time with Becca. I wanted to spend time with Becca. I wanted to spend time with her so much. I couldn’t wait to get married. So it’s just the way it was.
And now I still love spending time with her. It’s something you don’t have to like twist my arm. So the same thing should be with God’s word and spending time with your father. Your heaven Father wants that type of relationship. So lean into it. Sp you should have a, your desire, spend time with the word.
And if you’re not guys, are you really doing it the right way? Is your heart in the right place? Cuz if you read through and let and truly sit down and open up your Bible and say, all right, Lord, what are you trying to reveal to me? What would, what would you show me today? And he’s going to do it. And maybe you’re struggling with that.
And you know what, Chris? I don’t really know how to read the Bible. It’s okay. We all struggle with this. I’m gonna give you three questions you can start asking. And full disclosure, I got these from Pastor Jovi Martin. And these questions are really important to start asking ourselves. When you read God’s word, ask yourself what happened.
Okay? So when you’re reading God’s account, what happened? Alright, so what, alright, so, so this happened. So what, you know, what’s, what’s the impact here? The third question is the most important one though. Now what? Now what are you going to do about it? Now? What? How does this apply to you? How can you walk this out and actually make this part of your wall?
And I’m telling you, if you start reading scripture that way and getting a better context of what’s going on and then trying to figure out how you can apply it, it’s gonna come to life. And guys, I’m saying this cuz I’m seeing this, I’m seeing this in our. I’m seeing this in our daily spiritual kickoff right now.
We’re working through John at the time of this recording, and I just see the words jump off the page when I get to talking about it with our guys in the mornings and sharing it with them. The, the spirit reveals stuff to me that I never could see before. And I tell you what often, this is very interesting, and this is a spirit moment thing right here.
This is not part of the notes for this episode. I’ll read the scripture and I’ll go through and I do a lot of, I’m a, I’m a underliner. I don’t know why I underline, I don’t really highlight, I do have some highlights in my Bible, but I just like underlining, so I underline stuff that’s important. That to me, that that jumps out.
But I have found that one, I go live and I’m, and I’m reading scripture for our community, the, the daily spiritual kickoff, the fact that I’m speaking the words out loud, the spirit reveals something to me differently in those moments. So, you know, so my prior prep to get ready to, to, to share God’s word with the, with the guys in the community, I’m reading to myself the way that you typically would, right?
You would just read to yourself, get the internal boys talking. But while again, I wanna go live, I’m speaking the words and I’m hearing myself say the words. And I’ve always said, if you wanna hear God speak, just, you know, read God’s word out loud, but the spirit reveals things differently. So maybe that time with God, instead of just being quiet with your reading, actually say the words out loud.
Just say the words out loud that you’re reading through. And then see how the spirit’s going to what, what he reveals to you in those moments. And if you ever feel like it’s just checking a box, you know what? Give yourself a little grace, but also understand there’s something to be said about obedience.
So sometimes yes, it is just checking a box and I think that’s okay. You just need to have your obedience and your, and your willingness and your desire to be with your Heavenly Father, because can I say that every day when I read God’s word, every time that I have these huge revelation moments? No. But I am obedient in it, and it is, it’s a, it’s a daily process of just picking up my cross and following him.
All right. What were you gonna reveal to me? Holy Spirit, and full and fold. Another full disclosure, guys, every time I go live, or, or rather every time I hit record on this for the podcast, I always pray and my prayers, it’s very simple. Father just let you speak a whole lot less of me, a whole lot more of you.
I pray you guard my tongue and I I pray that you be glorified when this mic is hot and particularly with the stuff that we’re putting out for the line within us. Cause I know we have a lot of guys, you guys and girls, I’ve got, I’ve gotten feedback. We have a lot of female listeners. Hey, thank you so much.
I just want you to make sure that we understand this is not the line within Chris. This is the line within us. So I just want him to be glorified, him. To be glorified. So that time with God, God fellas, I’m telling you that is a really important way from a quality ti from a quality time standpoint that you need to hone in on cuz that quality time with him, that has to be prioritized.
It really has to be prioritized. Now, another quality time thing that you can think about, how you can grow to grow to be a more effective leader is to have more quality time for yourself is learning. Learning. Your pursuit of knowledge should never stop guys. It should never stop just because you graduated something, or maybe it doesn’t matter.
Keep learning, keep challenging yourself. Constantly be reading, constantly be asking questions. Whatever way you learn. I have some people who are audible learners, so they listen to books. Maybe they’re, you’re visual and you need to watch YouTube or things like that. But constantly be yourself to keep learning and keep growing.
If you want to grow in God’s word, you know what? You have to make some investments, buy you some study. Bibles, buy you some resources. Start plugging into some Bible studies, some, some devotionals. Plug into the line within this community where we can help help you grow there too. But do your learning.
Never stop that pursuit. Never stop that pursuit. You’re never done with that. If you, because once you feel like you’ve mastered something, you’re done. Okay. Go into the next thing. Maybe you can absolutely crush a guitar. Wonderful. Now go learn how to play drums. I don’t know. But never get settled. Never get stuck into just where you can, or you’re constantly just doing the same thing over and over and over.
Because we know the definition of insanity, right? Trying to do the same thing over and over, expect different results. So constantly push yourself to be learning. For me, it’s reading. I read all the time. I love reading. Uh, I definitely, we, we interview so many. The authors on the line with Denniss, the cool, that’s one of the cool parts is I get a lot of books that’s, I just love reading.
But also, you know, just, just love talking. That’s the one way I love that I learn is by listening and having communication and connection and relationship with others. And again, inside our community, it happens all the time. Never fails when I get on meeting with some of these guys. The stuff I’ve learned.
So from tractors to farming to act, let’s just be real intimacy and sex, all these things from a Christian standpoint, I’m telling you, I’m learning from these guys. And you need to constantly be in a constant pursuit of, of knowledge. There’s nothing wrong with that. Be be pursuing knowledge, learning and growing.
So that’s another quality time area, fellas, I’m telling you, take this one seriously, cuz you, if you ever stop, if you ever stop with that pursuit of knowledge, it’s just, you’re just not gonna have any joy. Now, another area to think about when it comes to quality time from a personal standpoint, again, we’re on a personal standpoint right now guys, it’s fitness.
Hey, you know I talk about this a lot cause this is an area, right? Health, mind and body. Now we’ve kind of just talked about the mind area from that learning standpoint, but the body piece, don’t miss it guys. Don’t miss it. We’ve been talking some in our community lately about what does it mean to be a manly man and how can you actually, uh, walk that out and be and be with Christ and, and, and take care of your body?
And I’m telling you, the only way that you’re gonna do it is you gotta make it happen each and every day. That’s why for me, if there’s a data ends in why I’m gonna do a workout, I’m gonna do something. I’m not gonna always get out there and pound like a, a high intensity interval training workout or, or you know, a bunch of pushups and pullups or maybe go on, you know, a, a run or things like that.
Well, I wanna do something each and every day just to make sure I’m taking care of the temple that he’s giving me to do and he’s giving me to do the work with guys. So make sure that you prioritize fitness and that the quality time for me, if I don’t get that workout time in, I’m ills a hornet. I just am.
I just, it, it throws me off. So I have to get that, that quality, that, that quality time for myself taking care of my body. It’s super important. And for me, I have to lock it in doing it in the mornings. It’s kind of ironic that the, when I’m recording this today, I haven’t done it yet cuz we had a late night last night.
I decided to, to, to sleep in, to have a little bit of time. I had to help, help help my wife with our kids and get ’em off school and things like that. And then I wanted to get straight to the podcasting. So, but you know what? This says later today, the workout is going to happen. I guarantee you it is going to happen.
So make sure you give yourself a little grace on that, but just get the workout in and look, it may be as simple as just starting a, a 30 minute walk a day, then that. Now let that be it, but don’t be prolific and don’t let any days miss where you don’t do that 30 minute walk. Our fitness is so important, guys, and I’m not gonna really get into the, to the nutrition side of it, that that’s a whole nother element that you gotta be super intentional about that.
But, but just take to action of, of, of committing to do something each and every day. Whatever that something is. Maybe it’s, or you jump on exercise bike, maybe you go off for that. Walk around the. Maybe you do go on a run. Maybe you’re starting to lift weights. Okay? Maybe you wanna do some pushups and pullups.
We can help you with that. Just ask our guys who did the March Madness push pull challenge. We do plenty of pushups and pullups that don’t line within us, so we can definitely help you with that. But you have to prioritize fitness. Now, you don’t wanna make it an idol, but you do need that, cause that quality time from a personal standpoint, when you start taking care of your body, it’s gonna help so many areas.
Okay? Now the last thing for that you want, I want you guys to think about from a quality time standpoint, from a personal standpoint, is an hobby. You all need to have something that you do, that you enjoy. Having for fun. Now, for you, Merry guys, you only get one hobby, so choose wisely. Okay? So seriously, choose wisely on that one.
Don’t make the bad, bad choices, but seriously, you gotta have something that you can have some fun with that can, you can let your hair down, that you can let your guard down, that you can just be yourself and just kind of check out. Have a little fun. Now, the hobbies, again, they’re, they’re different things.
Maybe they’re, they’re hunting and shooting, maybe they’re, you know, some type of sport. You know, a lot of, a lot of guys play golf. I haven’t yet to figure that one out. If you’re a golfer, hey, you know, I’ll keep praying for you. Maybe, maybe it’s working out, whatever it is, working on cars, riding motorcycles, whatever that hobby is, right?
Choose wisely, but then have some fun with it, right? Get out there and do some of that stuff, right? Don’t let it over consume you to where it just becomes everything that you, that, that takes over your, all that you do. But do have some fun. Get out. It’s a good way from a quality time standpoint to clear your mind, to clear your mind.
For me, I just love podcasting. For me, this is a quality time moment right here where I really love podcasting, but outside of that, it really is working out. I just enjoy it. It’s a quality time for me, for me, and, and personally that I just can enjoy that. And then probably the other thing is just riding motorcycles.
So I have a motorcycle whenever I can just get to get on it. Usually I don’t get to go far 30 minutes, an hour at the most, but that’s a really good way just for me to, to clear my mind, to check out. It’s a very peaceful moment for me to where, you know what? It’s just me, the bike and the road. And it doesn’t even matter what kind of road it is, so long as it’s not like, you know, an interstate that’s not quality time on a motorcycle at all, at all.
But quality time on a motorcycle, just on these back roads, country roads, whatever they are just, just cruising around. It’s so peaceful. So make sure you have a hobby, you gotta have something. So choose wisely on that. But again, Personal quality time. Fellas, that time when God do not miss that. I gave you some tips there.
What to on, on ways to really lean into that learning. You’re always learning. You should always be in that pursuit of knowledge. You need to take care of your fitness and you need to have a hobby. All those are gonna help you grow and really prioritize that personal qual personal quality time. Now let’s take a quick break and we’re gonna come back and we’re gonna look at what it’s sp quality time, what our spouse looks like.
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All right guys. And now let’s get it to the quality of time with our spouse. And this is super important. So let’s, let’s just kind of lock in right here. I’m gonna look at a couple areas that I think we’re going to help you and, and grow that relationship with her, okay? Cause if you’re married, if you’re not being intentional about your marriage, you’re going to have some troubles.
So the first thing you need to do, you need to really be. Locked in on dating and I mean, not just, not just going out and calling it date night, but truly dating, pursuing each other, you know, flirting, sending text messages, uh, being, being out there when she walks by, how often do you grab her butt? I mean, let’s just be real.
Have some fun with her, right? But always be dating. You guys hear me talk about this in the past too. When you’re on a date, be there, be there. If you need to put your, your phone in airplane mode, when you go on a date, then do it whatever you need to do so that you’re not distracted, or you can just be with her.
I saw a guy the other day talking about he puts his phone in airplane mode every day at like six o’clock. He doesn’t take off airplane mode until like the next morning. I think that’s awesome. I, I can’t do it. I just, I wish I could. I, I can’t do it. I’m just too locked into our community right now. But I think if you have to take extreme measures like that, that’s something to consider.
But dating our wives should really be not just that date night. Okay. Not just a date night, every day. Yeah. Now, you may have a designated night of the week, or a design night, or designated, uh, uh, one night a month where you have, you know, quote unquote date night. But I’m gonna tell you, pH each and every day is an opportunity to pursue your wife each and every day.
And that quality time with her is so important. So maybe that needs to be a daily check-in. You’re just having that daily check-in time. This was brought up by one of our community members of Lucas. I love Lucas to death. Big shout out to you Lucas, for, for giving me this idea where he’s talking about, he takes him and his wife every day.
They talk about the eyes, they talk about the lows, and they talk and they pray together. And that’s a very intimate quality time together that they have. And guys, you know, I talk about it all the time. You better be praying with your wife. That’s super important. Each and every day. You need to be taking, you know, laying a hand on her, holding hands, whatever it matters, whatever you do.
And, and go to the Lord in prayer and soak your marriage. Soak your marriage in prayer as it needs it. As a Satan’s gonna be attacking your marriage. He is going to attack and he’s gonna do all he can to throw you off, take you down, get you off track, put a wedge between you and her. So you gotta be super intentional here, guys.
Super intentional about that quality time, uh, with her. And not just going on a date, just on date night, but date all the time. Date all the time. Don’t forget, open the door for her. Help her in her car. Help her out the car. Do all these things, you know, center just random text messages that you’re thinking of.
Always be dating, always be. Don’t let that just be an event. It’s just, it shouldn’t just be an event. You know when, when, when you’re in high school or in college or early, you know, before you get married. Yeah, that date was a, you had a time you were gonna pick up, you had things you were gonna go do, and you had like an agenda, right?
You’re married now. If you have a spouse and you’re married, understand that whole, you know what, it’s all the time you have op more opportunities now than ever. And you remember how hard you worked to get for her to say yes. And now you gonna forget that, right? She’s not a, a dear man on a wall. No. She’s your partner.
She’s your partner. Show her how much you value her and if you do that, lady, if the, for the ladies listening, show him some respect. When women wanna be valued, men will be respected. You’ve heard me say that before. And then from there, constantly be, constantly be growing together. Now another area that you can think about from a spouse, quality time standpoint.
Serve together. Serve together. So for me and my wife, this means for our church, we, we, we always try to do things like welcoming committee or anytime we’re chil we’re serving with a children’s department. We like to do that together. Why? Because it’s just fun. I’m with her. I’m, I’m able to, she’s able to see me joke with the kids or whatever we’re doing, but it’s just a good time for us to serve together.
You know, you never know, like every year I always look forward to, to going to get the, the materials for the Backpack Ministries and the materials for the Shoebox ministries. And you guys know all about that kind of stuff. But just taking that time to serve with her is such a special, special time that I, you, you just can’t miss guys.
You just can’t miss that. So next time you have your church, they have an opportunity to come up for serving, invite her, say, you know what, I think we should do that together. And just let the Holy Spirit guide and direct you and, and constantly just, just show you the different things that are out there that, that he desires for your marriage.
But you have to be willing. And be obedient to actually do that service. So I’m telling you, this is an area that, that I think gets overlooked sometimes is serving together. Cuz you know, we have, like, I had my men’s, my men’s ministry, my discipleship group lying within us. Obviously all this stuff, so many of that stuff is me, me, me, you know, which is this stuff that I’m trying to do for the Lord.
The Lord is definitely guided me to. But I just noticed that here recently, my wife has joined me on some of our lion within US activities. And it’s been phenomenal. It’s been incredible. It was so funny that we had her in on one of the, the, the, uh, Bible study nights and we’re talking about spouse alignment and finance.
And usually the guys there, they like, you know, they get my input and feedback, they’ll ask questions, we’ll be bouncing back and forth. But I thought it was funny that night they wanted to know what my wife thought. They kept coming to her at one point with something wanted. Cause I said, actually said, Hey Chris, uh, this question is for Rebecca.
Can she answer this one? I was like, got it, I’ll just, let me just get out the way. Do you guys still need me here? Or, but it was funny. But you know, having that time of serving together is so important. And we had some recent instances where people have come to us for prayer requests and things like that, and I asked my wife to sit in with me while we pray for these people.
And that’s just a special way you could serve together right there. As, as well. You never know who has a need, who needs, who needs prayer and use that, use that, uh, opportunity to serve together. This is another little side note sidebar for you guys that are listening. Now, if you’re, if you’re a man and you’re married, You have an opportunity to serve others.
And let’s just say you’re doing this ministry and you’re by yourself and it, and it’s, and you’re, and you’re trying to help a another lady. Be careful here. Be careful. So I had this opportunity come up to me. A lady reached out, she needed prayer, she wanted to, to, to, to have my counseling on some areas.
And I brought back in with me. I was like, and I told, I put the lady on speakerphone and said, full disclosure, I don’t really work with women directly one-on-one without my wife here. And if you’re okay with my wife being here, then I will be glad to, to serve you, to try to help you. Cuz that’s a boundary that I’ve put up in my marriage.
That’s super important to me and I wanna respect that. So guys, just be, be careful. Just make sure that the survey that you’re doing, uh, don’t put yourself in situations that could do any harm to your marriage. I guess that’s my big thing. Now, the last thing from, from a, from a spouse quality time standpoint, that I really want to, to encourage you guys to do.
Let’s kind of go back to that to one of the things I talked about and from a personal standpoint is learning together. Okay? Learning together can be fun. So my wife and I, before we got married, we wanted to have a special dance when we got married. So we took some dance classes together and they were some of the funnest nights.
Uh, the dance instructor was a little bit, you know, out there. He was a lot of fun though, uh, and, and I learned some, some moves. I don’t remember a lot of those moves, to be honest. As we try to do that right now, I would probably just be terrible. But it was a lot of fun getting us ready for that. And then most recently we got turned onto, A massage class, and that has been phenomenal.
Just a great way to, to learn some of these different techniques. And any time that I can sit, get my wife a massage just relaxes her body. It lets her feel disconnected to me more as well. It’s just a fun way to do so. She’s big into learning about gardening and, uh, right now she’s big in a sourdough.
We’re making that type of stuff and I, I’m not really into that kind of stuff, but it’s cool to wash her, do these things and, and I try to help her where I can, you know, I can’t really help at a sourdough other than eating it, giving, tell her what’s good and what’s not good, but the garden stuff, we try to do that stuff together.
But anytime you can learn something together, it’s a great opportunity to. It really is. So whether it’s reading a Bible or maybe you’re doing a Bible study together, uh, or taking classes, but learning a skill together, I think it’s just a lot of beauty in that there’s a lot of opportunity for growth, for relation, for relationships in that.
And so lean into that more and more and, and never get stagnant. Never get stale. Maybe you wanna learn, you know, how, how to do this one specific skill. Well, you know what, make it an opportunity for you and her to do that together. Maybe you want to, to to learn a new workout and you take that opportunity to learn that workout together, whatever it is.
But learning together can be a lot of fun. I just know for me and my wife, that’s some of the, the funnest times we have. Cuz if I don’t have the expertise that she doesn’t have it, we’re learning together. Like one of the things recently is, uh, our family has started getting into karate and Brazilian jiujitsu and unfortunately we don’t get to go on the same night.
Cause one of us has to stay home and take care of the littles. So, but it is always fun when we come back. She’s like, what’d you learn tonight? And then I, and she’ll show, she’ll talk about her choke move that she learned or things like that. But we’re learning this skill set together, and I know there’s gonna be a soon an opportunity for us.
We’re gonna be in the same class together. We’ll be able to, maybe the stars will align and that’s gonna be a fun way to, oh, maybe we can roll together and it have some fun out there on the mats and things like that. Ali even told her, I said, you’re way too cute. I don’t, I, I may let you pin me anyway, girl.
But, uh, you know, that always gets a little chuckle outta of her. But have some fun learning together. Seriously. I mean, this is a great opportunity. Something to think about from a quality time standpoint that you will help grow your relationship. So guys, there you go. From a dating standpoint, always be dating.
But don’t just stop there. Take that day to the next area, serve together, and then learn together. So we’re, that’s, now we’re going to start, we’re gonna take a peak into how do we have quality time with our children? With our children? All right guys, be right back with digging of that.
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All right guys, welcome back. So we’re gonna be talking about quality time with our kids. So I mean, it’s, when we think about kids and quality time, sometimes those two words are like oil and water, right? But they just don’t, they can’t coexist. But trust me, they can. They can, I think the first area there.
But from a quality time with our kids, I wanted to talk about is learning, okay? Learning together. Our kids are always seeing us like show them how to do stuff, show them how to do stuff, show ’em how to do stuff over and over and over and over. What if, what if they see us learn to do stuff together? Now, going to kind of go back to that last example I just gave you guys around karate and Jiujitsu.
That is the most recent opportunity that has come up in my life, and I really have found a lot of value in doing this with them. So again, 40. Never taken karate, never taken jiujitsu, never wrestled in any of that kind of stuff. Only thing I did play growing up was played baseball’s. A lot of this stuff why I did wrestle with my brother, but we, it was more like WWF type stuff, man, like off the top rope, off the couch type thing.
We weren’t, we weren’t doing any, uh, bra Brazilian jiujitsu wrestling. Okay. So when we decided to do this as a family, we, we, we, we said, you know what, we’re gonna all do this. We’re gonna all learn these skills. We’re gonna all learn how, how this works. Primarily because we’re raising young daughters. These girls are growing up, and I want them to have some basic self-defense, uh, understanding.
I want them, that they get put, put into certain situations. They’ll know how to handle themselves, you know, so we’ve been practicing stuff like when people come up behind you and grab you and, you know, what do you do? And, you know, just basic takedowns, basic, um, ways that you can put people and submission moves and things like that.
But I thought it’s been, it’s been very interesting and fun. For them in particular to see me and my wife out there on the mat sweating, getting hit, you know, getting punched, getting kicked, getting corrected by the instructors and they see that, you know what, my parents, they don’t know this stuff either, but we’re all learning together and the ride’s home have been incredible.
I’ve enjoyed that the most. We get to ride home, we get to talk about the things we learned tonight. Alright, well when you have that arm here and you’re trying to go around here, how did you do that again, or that, that choke hold? You know what, when you get that, this certain angle, it really does. Put that pressure in you, you have no cha no choice, but the tap or we just talk about, you know, certain kicks or punches or just different roles or whatever that, what, whatever those, those moves are like a side guard.
Just the conversation’s just really cool. And I’m able to talk to them about, you know, what, we’re doing this cuz you know, if someone comes up behind you now and after we just did this 50 times in a row, it feels like you’ll have, you’ll have been through that and since you’ve been through that you’ll be able to respond a lot more calmly, a lot more, uh, collected and a lot more effectively.
But just the fact that they’ve seen me learn, it’s been incredible. Most recently we had our first night of, of, of, uh, in karate where we put on the gear and you’re kind of going through it and you’re, and you’re, you’re sparring with each other, right? So you’re actually going through kinda like, except as karate, so you get to kick to.
And my oldest, well she put on that gear. She had never seen anything like that before. And I could tell she was starting to shut down. I mean, she didn’t like the, the, the whole I idea it, the, the learning, the moves was one thing, but when it actually came to combat with another, it was, it really started, she was timid.
It was her first time. So she went, she did her f I think they did two or three minute, um, rounds. And then I went and I had to, they put me, I was, I’m an adult and like, I’m not one of the only adults in the karate class. I’m in there some, I’m, I’m, I’m in there with like, you know, older teenagers, 15, 16, 17 year olds.
But these guys have, you know, red belts and I mean, these, they’re good. Okay. So I have a, my white belt could not be any whiter, right. It’s just pure, it’s just a, is as pure white as Jesus at this point. It’s just white. So I’m out there and I’m just trying to learn, but it was good for her for to see her dad getting those hits, you know?
And I got hit, I did get hit plenty, but you know what? I got a few licks in too. And the second guy I fought, Was one of the best guys in the, in the gym. And I, and I told him, I was like, look, just come after me. Like, just don’t. Cuz usually the, the higher belts, they’re more of a punching bag for lower belts.
So for lower belt they’re learning. So the higher belts will take a lot more punches. And I told him, so I kind of pumped him up. I was like, look, let’s just go for real. And, and he, he came at me and he got some good looks in. Again, I got a few, but it, I was really important for my oldest to see her dad struggling, but learning and we’re learning together.
And I think that is such an important, I can’t, I can’t think of something from a quality time standpoint, from a learning outside of, obviously time in the word where we’re, we’re doing our Bible study and our devotion and things like that. But this, this quality time on the mat has been really special.
Now, Holly, encourage you guys to learn. Now the second area I wanna talk about is teaching. So we went from learning to teaching. Now this is not preaching, we’re teaching. So you do need to take opportunities to teach your ch your children and, and use that as quality time for me, that directly I start thinking of coaching cause I’m a coach.
I, I coach, you know, I coach man. I try to coach guys with their finances. But also I love coaching kids, man. I love coaching, uh, softball. I love coaching volleyball. I love coaching basketball. Pretty much fits some ball. I like coaching it, you know, it’s just fun. It’s fun to have that connection and to, to be out there and, and help these kids grow.
If you’re have a kid and they’re involved in something, really take it upon yourself to coach. We need more, we definitely need more strong Christian men, even in secular leagues, like the, like we’re in. The secular leagues. We need strong Christian men that are out there leading these kids. So take that time to teach and to coach.
Now when you do this with your kids, you have to be careful. You don’t wanna come harsh, you don’t wanna come so super hard and you don’t want them to constantly hear nothing but negative, negative, negative. Now I’m not saying yet, you always praise everything that is not it. Cuz when they screw up they need to know it.
But that shouldn’t be the only thing that they hear from you. So be careful with that. And it’s something I gotta check myself with. Am I always being cri critical or do I take the time and make sure I build up as well? Cuz you gotta build up too, guys. You can’t constantly be tearing down. You gotta be building up.
But take the time to teach. Am my oldest and, and my, my 10 year old Chloe and aga, they both like asking questions about for me. We’re talking, we’re in softball. What I learned when I played baseball, when I was their age. So I’m constantly trying to bring up stories from their papa things to just that, that, that I learned re remember from playing from my playing days that they think is fun.
But it’s a cool way for me to, to transfer, Hey, here is how I was taught this skill and how it helped me. So why don’t we try this with your game and see if it helps you. And just, just being able to make that connection in that way has really opened up to the, the what is the channels of communication so that we can c talk and understand and they can see and they see a different, a different, uh, value and learning it that cuz they know that, hey, dad learned this bef when he was our age and it’s pretty cool that we’re learning it now.
Right? So just take that opportunity to teach, you know, teach with love. Don’t always, you don’t always have to be a hammer. You don’t guys, but understand if you just are intentional about that teaching, it’s so important. It is just so important. And they need, they need that. Cuz if you look at the world and where they’re going to school, and even if they go to a great school, great hallelu, you got ’em to a great school.
But I’m here to tell you boys this, the, the world is going to attack it’s ara, it’s attacking the Christian values out there right now. And you have to be super intentional. So if you want to teach them the things that are important, they’re tru, they’re, they’re truly meaningful things in life. Don’t expect any school to teach ’em.
That’s even if it’s a Christian school, okay? Unless you’re doing homeschool and you’re involved in homeschool, you gotta be super intentional about this. Okay? So make sure that we’re teaching at a last area to talk about here for from a kids quality time standpoint is one-on-one time you gotta have that one-on-one time.
You need to take the time that you’re spending with them directly. So if we got four kids, it can be very chaotic when we all go out. But that one-on-one connection. Put it on the calendar, make it happen. You guys go back after that episode with Jim Shields. He’s talking about 18 summers, and that’s how really where I got this idea from.
Well, we implemented that thing and we’ve been doing it for about two years now. And this idea one-on-one time, once a month with a, with a, with a child for about four hours uninterrupted, doing whatever they want to do. That time is so, so powerful, so powerful. So from a quality time standpoint, that’s probably one of the most impactful things you can do, is have that one-on-one time des designated.
You’ve got it, you’ve got it scheduled out, you’ve budgeted for it. And when you’re there, you are there, brother. Don’t be anywhere else. Put that phone in an airplane and leave it at home if you have to. But be with that child, just be with that child. Now maybe you don’t have kids. And he want to actually start doing more with the church ministry and things like this.
Look for one-on-one opportunities to serve and have that Timothy, like for me and my Timothy, he comes with, he’s not his name, he’s not Timothy. I’m not, I’m not gonna share his name, but we go, we, we go, we do stuff once a month. We just, we used to just do stuff together, play baseball, play football, go, go motorcycle riding, teaching him how to change on a car.
I’m telling you guys, we just always, we’re just trying to do stuff together cuz I wanna be with him. I wanna have that one-on-one time with him cause I wanna help him grow. So that one-on-one time, you can’t underestimate that fellas. It is so important that we have this one-on-one time with our children and we, and when we’re there, there, we really are there.
We’re not thinking about the stuff we got going on at work, how this jerk cut us off with the, in the, in the on the road the other day. None of that stuff. None of that stuff be where your feet are when you’re with your children. So there you go guys. So that’s, that’s kind of talking about learning together and the importance of that teaching, why we need to be teachers and that one-on-one time.
So we’re gonna take our last break. We’ll come back and we’re gonna talk about how time with other men is so important to have that quality time guys. So enjoy this break. We’ll be right back
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our fellows. So we’ve gone through how do you quality time from a personal standpoint, quality time from our spouse, quality time with our kids in the last area. It’s gonna be quality time with other men. And why is that important? Because guys, you’ve gotta have a abandoned brothers out there. I am telling you, you’ve gotta have your personal lions den.
Even if you’re lions, dens, not the lion with Dennis. You’ve gotta have your line stand. That’s why I built the line with Dennis and we wanted to build this to serve Christian men. To be the leader of God intends to be right. They need to be together. And then when I, when you guys hear me talking about community, what’s the number one value of our community?
You asked us a lot. It’s always connection. It’s connection. It doesn’t matter how cool the, the courses are that I can build or the challenges and things like that. What matters is the connection that guys get inside the community and that’s what you can’t, you can’t fake that. You can’t try to engineer that, that stuff just when the spirit’s touching it and moving, it’s real.
So time with, with other Christian men. One thing you probably need to consider is, is a discipleship group. This is a recent ad of my life and it’s been one of the biggest blessings in my life. My discipleship group recently has just grown too. We got, we, we’ve added some new men to it, but that time we meet on Saturdays, he usually takes about an hour and a half to two hours and we’re just studying a book or, or digging into word.
But it’s time to grow together. As men, it’s time to be real, cuz I’m gonna tell you what the stuff we talk about a lot of times not, is not in the book that we’re studying or it, it, it’s always, we try to keep stuff centered on a bible. It’s all over the place. It’s about one of our buddies most recent weightlifting competitions.
It’s about one of our buddies who, who is, who’s, who’s not really happy with his job as a, as, as an attorney, and he’s trying to figure out what does he need to do next. You know, it’s about that type of stuff. But it was about one of our buddies who a while back needed a job and how we were able to pray with him and help him and connect him.
And now he’s employed, he actually be working with one another, one of our discipleship group members and spent all these things. And one of our members, he w he was, uh, that him and and his wife are looking into adoption and what does that look like to be not just pro-life, but actually taking this thing to the next level.
So it’s those types of community of, of conversations. We have two young guys and they’re starting to date girls, and they’re just questions. So we just talk, start talking about things, about what, what does purity look like? How, how’s a Christian man walking out right now and actually live his life in accordance to God’s word and yet has some fun dating.
So we’re talking about stuff like that. So the discipleship groups, fellas, I’m telling you, it’s a great opportunity to grow if you don’t have a small group like that where you can connect with the other guys one-on-one, start one. That’s what I had to do. Our church didn’t offer it, so I had to start one.
And it’s probably one of the best things that, that, from an obedience standpoint that I’ve done for my personal growth, my personal quality time too. Cuz that’s just something I look forward to. It’s fun. It’s, it’s, it’s, it’s no pressure, you know? I know I can say stuff to those guys and it’s confidential and, but at the same time we’re growing together.
We are absolutely growing together. So guys, that’s something that’s really think about as you move forward. Another thing to think about, usually once or twice a month I go out with a buddy and sometimes it’s two buddies, but we go out to lunch and we just break bread and we just simply have a meal. And talk about whatever’s going on in his business, whatever’s going on in my business.
And if our other buddy can come, we always talk about, uh, you know, things that, that, that he’s got crack going on in his life. And I’m just telling you, it’s just a fun time of fellowship. But guys, it doesn’t happen if we don’t plan for it. So we’re always, when we’re together, usually what we try to do is look, when’s the next time we can, we do it.
So we, we’ll set up that meeting, that, that lunch meeting while we’re still on the one we’re at, because we value that time, you know, and the things have, we, we were thinking about how long we’ve been doing that. It’s almost a year and a half coming from two years probably, uh, for, for one of the, you know, one of my buddies.
And we think about the life that has changed that time he’s getting ready to get married. You know, we started when we first. Going to lunch together. There was no lion with this. It did not exist. And so he’s, you know, he has been there through the evolution of the lion to where we’re at now and, and to where we’re trying to grow and how things, how we’re trying to do in the future.
He’s seeing all that and it’s just been incredible. But it’s, it’s so important, guys. Take the time to break the bread, to have that, that connection time with fellow believers. So make launch a priority. Now, working out, this is another area I’m telling you guys. Connect shoulder to shoulder. You want some quality time with other Christian men.
You wanna put some really impactful things on your calendar that are not gonna be drag, drag you down, start working out together. I am telling you there’s nothing like it. Your work workouts will be better. You’re work. It’ll be more energized and they’ll be a lot more fun. You know, every now and then my buddy comes over and we’ll go.
He’s even not a, he’s not even a runner, but he just enjoys coming over. And I, I always love it. It’s always fun just to have someone I end up talking, the whole dog on time running. But it’s just a great time to connect. Uh, we actually finished with our, our push pull challenge together. We did, we ran a 5k, we did a hundred pushups, we did like 30 something pull-ups, and we were spent, we were done at the end of it.
But it was fun. It was a really good way to connect. So maybe go work out with, together with, with some, with some friends. Go to the gym, lift some weights, do some hard stuff, whatever. Run an obstacle course, whatever that looks like for you or that’s available for you. Do some procedure. Jiujitsu. Doesn’t matter.
The fact is that you’re working out, that you’re sweating, that you’re breaking a sweat with, with, with fellow brothers in Christ. I guarantee you it’s gonna be a fun. And the last thing guys from first time with other men is community. I’m telling you, if you don’t have that group of guys, you better find it.
I’d highly encourage you to check out our community. We do a lot of stuff together, a lot, a lot of ways to engage guys and learn guys from all walks of life, all different experiences of life. And I have seen the personal impact it’s had on me that it’s had on others. It has been absolutely incredible.
Fellas, I’m telling you. So if you’ve gone through a divorce or maybe you’re dealing with things like pornography or maybe you’re dealing with, with some issues with your spouse or your, some troubles at work, you know, or, or you just don’t know where to go with your career. We’ve, we’ve got it all. We’ve heard it at this point, uh, in the community.
So many things have come up and this is. This is real. This is, this is not, you know, a fake you. I’m good, blessed and highly favored. No, that that’s not what shows up at the line within US community. See, you need to have that and maybe our community is not for you, but then that’s fine. Make sure you have that group, that core group of guys that you can go to.
They’re gonna be there for you, that are not gonna be yes man. They’re gonna speak true to you. They’re gonna speak to you like a HA guy did right here where he called everybody out and says, you know, here’s what the Lord says. Consider it and give careful thoughts your ways. Do you have that guy when you’re stepping outta line, where you’re looking at that chick, you shouldn’t be looking at who’s going punch you in the arm and say, Hey, remember you’re a merry bro if you don’t have that type of guy.
What do you need to do to get that type of guy in your life? Really, really? What do you be super, super intentional about this? You gotta have those boys that are going. And you gotta be willing to check someone as as well. Don’t just be that pushover. Yes guy. If you see someone check stepping out, maybe obviously you wanna do this in grace and love, but you also need to be in truth.
It’s so can you do that? Can you check someone if they’re not acting the way that they should? Or if they’re, if you feel like they’re, they’re disrespecting their spouse or their kids or things like that. Are you willing to step out on your faith in love with Christ? Obviously through, through the power of the Holy Spirit, but actually speak truth to him?
I pray you are. I pray you had that community and you need that community to help you grow. Jesus didn’t roll around here by himself. Yes, he went away to pray by himself from time to time, but he always came back to his boys and he had that core group and he had that inner core group, Peter, James, and John, right?
So you gotta have that core group of guys that are helping you grow to be the leader that God intends you to be. So fellas, as we we’re kind of wrapping up here at quality time, Does it fit onto your busy calendar? Seriously, think about that. Does it fit on your, on your busy calendar? I really want you to think about quality time, how you can start applying this more.
We went through a lot of different things today from personal quality time, from some quality time with our spouse to kids, quality time to quality time with other men. Go back maybe whether it’s an area that you need to focus in on, that you’re just not, you’re struggling with. Let’s just be real. Maybe there’s an area that you’re struggling with.
Take some of these, these, these tips that I provided here in this episode through the, through the guidance to hold superior, obviously and apply ’em. None of this stuff I talked about today guys is hard. None of his hard, but Satan’s gonna do everything he can to keep you moving forward with any of this.
So you gotta ask yourself, am I, am I gonna really step in, be the leader you’ve called me to be, God, or I’m just gonna sit back and just, yeah. I get to it when I get to it. You know what, guys, you’ve been given today, you’ve been given the blessing of today. Use it. Use it to the best of your ability. Love on others.
Take that quality, turn all that ness and the quality. Maybe your calendar starts looking a lot different. Maybe instead of all, you know, 30 things on your calendar for this week, maybe they’re five, but those five are super important. They’re gonna bring you to such a deeper relationship with Christ, and it’s gonna do so much to build the kingdom that you can’t refute ’em.
They’re going to happen and they bring you a lot of joy. We need more joy. We need a whole lot less happiness and a whole lot more joy as happiness. Again, that’s your circumstances, fellas. And look, circumstances change. Phone calls come in, doctor’s appointments don’t go right people, we lose people. We lose jobs.
Finance, finances go just haywire sometimes, right? That’s all circumstantial. The joy that you’re looking for. It can be found in the lordship of Jesus and spending quality time with him is the most important thing you can possibly do. So hopefully some of these tips will help you fit quality time into your busy schedule.
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So don’t just sit on the fence, get off the dogone fence, get into the game. I would love to see you in that community. Cause I’m telling you guys, it is growing. It has been incredible. It’s to see the way that g the Holy Spirit is moving. We give him all the credit, all the glory. It is something else and it can help you and help you, your spouse.
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Come back on Friday. I’ll have your fun Friday episode. Got a few more tips to help you improve that quality time what, what that can look like. So prayerfully, I’ll see you back here for that. And again, take the opportunity to share this episode with others. So maybe you find a, you got a buddy who just, you just know they’re constantly buried with all this work, all this, these things are happening in their life.
Share this episode cause this is some practical stuff here today, guys, that can help you grow. Be the leader God attends you to be. So get after it. Look forward to seeing you back here on Friday. Let me know how, what you think of this episode. I always, I will love your feedback when it comes to these solos.
Uh, it’s something we try to do a little bit different at the line with ends just to mix some things up, guys. Cause I know I’ll get an opportunity to learn so much from our community, from our guests that when I, when I get these, these, these opportunities to just share a message. I pray it helps you. I pray it serves you.
And I pray that I did Chloe Justice with answering her question. Cause does quality time still exist? So, Chloe, if you’re listening, I love you, baby. You, you know, she’s my oldest guy, so it’s just something she, she and I, she is a trip ala. Love you girl. Lilly, Judah, I’ll see Becca. This, this, my whole crew.
Just wanna say, love you to my family. I just wanna say also thank you to all you listeners. You’re incredible. I’m blown away each and every week when we see how many of you guys are listening to the line within us, how we’re serving you. I pray we can keep doing that, uh, in a meaningful way that helps you grow.
Be the leader that God intends you to be. So get after it. I’ll see you back on Friday. Keep on them. Keep unleashing the lion within.
As you think through your current commitments and obligations see how some of these ideas can help you adjust to what is truly important. There are enough busy people out there that are letting life fly by. Slow down, listen to your Father and pivot where needed to do what He has called you to.
If you are married we encourage you to share this with your spouse. See what ideas resonate as a couple and make the adjustments together.
Take control of your calendar, leave time for Holy Interruptions and always look for opportunities to unleash the Lion Within!
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