Chris Grainger
Host
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Welcome to the Lion Within Us, a podcast serving Christian men who are hungry to be the leaders God intends you to be. I’m your host, chris Granger. Let’s jump in. All right, fellas, fun Friday time. Are you excited? You better be All right.
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So I’m not sure if you’ve listed this in the morning, if you are maybe a little bit too much energy for you, but I’m recording this in the afternoon. I’m feeling good. Let’s go. We’re getting ready to Matthew 18. Okay, so Matthew 18 is where we’re at this week.
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One verse, verse 22. Jesus said unto them I say not unto these up to seven times, but until seventy times. Seven, fellas, all about forgiveness. This week we’re talking about forgiving your neighbors. That verse you need to simplify and apply it, and here’s a simplify and an apply method. It ain’t about man, it’s about forgiveness. Always, always, lead with forgiveness. Forgiveness does nothing but rob you of joy.
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Now, I spent a lot of time on our spiritual kickoff, as well as the main episode this week, talking about forgiveness. What does that look like? How can you actually apply that to our life? So, guys, you got no excuses at this point. Go back and listen to those two episodes. Really unpack that in depth to give you some insight, give you some wisdom, to give you some discernment, to help you understand what true forgiveness looks like. Okay, go back, check that stuff out. We’ll love your feedback on those. Let me know, are you enjoying that format? Usually once a month, will we give you a little bit of deeper drop in the plow? Just go a little bit with some more scripture. We’ll love your insight on that.
01:35
Okay, now let’s get into our tips. We’ve got a health tip, wealth tip, self tip Now remember, health tip is your mind and your body. Wealth tip is career and finances. Self tip is how to be a better husband, dad, and I try to tie all three of these tips around the idea of forgiveness in general. Okay, so the first one, the health tip Forgive yourself first. Let me say that again Forgive yourself first. Think about this when you fly on a plane I’m actually getting ready to head out on a flight here in a day or so when you fly on a plane, they go through the instructions of how to take care of yourself and something happens on the air flight. The first thing they tell you is before you can help anyone, you need to put that oxygen mask on yourself. Right. Why? Because if you don’t have that mask on and you go to try to help others, well, you’re going to have your own issues and you’re going to be ineffective.
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And I see too many guys out here who say I’ve done too much wrong, I’m bad, I’m no good, I’m no count, I’m like bro. No, no, that is not true. That’s lies from the evil one. You need to cast that stuff back to the pits of hell, where it belongs. You are a blood ball believer. Jesus loves you, god loves you. You have value.
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Forgive yourself. You can’t keep beating yourself up. It’s all it’s doing is robbing your joy out of your day, out of your life, and Satan wants you to stay there. He does not want you to forgive yourself. He wants you to think that you’re wretched, that you’re wicked, that you’re no good. You need to rebuke all that. Bring all that back to the gates of hell, where it belongs, and start forgiving yourself.
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It’s okay, You’re going to make mistakes. Extend yourself some grace for crying out loud and forgive yourself. So what? You made a mistake and it cost you $5,000. I don’t know. Let’s just make something. Let’s make this. Let’s say it’s monetary. You know what, in the big scheme of things, in the big scheme of life, is that really going to be Something that you remember 20 years from now? Why not? How you respond to that, that probably does matter, as people are watching.
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So you need to make sure to be able to extend forgiveness to others. You’ve got to forgive yourself first, bro, so really think through that. Okay, how can you forgive yourself first? Now, wealth tip. I want you to just think about how you can forgive yourself of previous financial decisions.
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We’ve all made those bad mistakes, right? Like geez, louise, you had to buy us some more. It’s like I cannot believe I bought that, right. Maybe you get home and you bought it after buying that brand new truck. You could not wait to get it. You get that first payment. You’re like no, bro, I didn’t need that, I didn’t need that, I get it, I get it. We all make bad mistakes. You can do stupid with money. I have done stupid with money. Okay, what we need to do is learn, forgive ourselves and move forward. That’s what being a good steward is all about.
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So look, it’s not just saying you know what, I’m a willy nilly making no stupid mistake with finances and ask for forgiveness. No, that’s saying look. When you truly are made a mistake, forgive yourself, okay, and make amends there. Now think about this If you’re a willy, if you actually lend money to others, maybe you need to forgive some debts to people of you. I’m not saying that’s the case, but there’s an opportunity for a ministry to share the good news of the gospel with others, and I just extending forgiveness to someone who maybe doesn’t deserve it, right? So think about that. Who are there? Areas that people you need from a debt standpoint that you need to consider forgetting, and also forgive yourself from those bad financial decisions, because you’re gonna make them. That’s just. You’re human. We’re gonna make bad financial decisions. But just walking around reeling and just beating up shows up all the time does not serve us guys. Make sure that you are forgiving yourself in that area, particularly around finances, so that you can move forward to be the steward he’s called you to be. All right. Now the self-tip Again. This is husbands and dads. Okay, really good conversation with my wife on this one.
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Don’t be hysterical or historical. When you’re forgiving others, okay. Now here’s the deal Like. We get into arguments, you get into discussions or whatever it may be, and all of a sudden, if you find yourself and the voice is getting elevated and you get all amped up. Well, all of a sudden you become hysterical, you’re not thinking right. So you better stop. You’re not gonna be able to forgive that way. Or you get into that argument and you bring up things that happened back in 2006. One, don’t be a bad girl, don’t you remember, girl, 20 years ago, when you said this? And I’m still upset about it? Right, that’s being historical. Can’t do that.
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True forgiveness is not hysterical or historical. True forgiveness is just that. It’s forgiveness with love. So if you find yourself getting all amped up or getting injured, or starting to think about, or thinking about all the things that are happening in your life where you just want to forgive others, where you can’t forgive others, and you just wanna keep bringing up these things that happened and over and over and over, and you just can’t forgive, that’s not gonna serve you well at all. So be careful here, fellas. This is an area of our life that we can’t control. You can control your emotions and, as the man, if you’re leading your household, the weight, the words you use, your actions you take, the words you speak, all that stuff matters. So I’m telling you, it matters big time, okay, so be careful that you’re not becoming historical or Asterical when it comes to forgiveness.
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So there you three tips. Your health tip will tip and self tip. That help was forgive yourself first, guys, you need to pay attention to that one. Forgive yourself first, take some action there. Wealth tip forgive your previous financial decisions. We’ve all done stupid with money. Don’t. Don’t keep bringing it up. Don’t make the same mistakes over. Live, learn, move forward. And your self tip don’t be hysterical or Historical when it comes to forgetting. Got it Alright, fellas. Now look for the week.
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Now, full disclosure. I have not read this book. My good friend, adam sheets, by the way, for this episode I’m reporting in his studio. We were actually trying to sell our, our house, or I couldn’t get access to my studio. He graciously allowed me to use his, his setup today Record a couple episodes with you guys see this one, or maybe a previous episode. That’s because we were batching some episodes here in his studio. So very gracious for him.
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And this is a book that Adam’s actually working through. It’s called good boundaries and good vibes, okay, loving others without losing the best who you are. So this is a very good book. He’s been. He’s really has been enjoying it, pointing me to this. They talks about five factors to remember when you implement healthy boundaries. It’s talks about determine the appropriate amount of personal and emotional access someone has to you, based on how responsible they’ll be with that access. Okay, so just being careful who you let speaking to your life. This talks about stop being misled and emotionally paralyzed by wrongly interpret or weaponized scriptures. So making sure that the word again is used in the right way for for building, for correcting, for rebuking, and not to tear us down. It’s been, says, it’s here. Be equipped to say goodbye without guilt.
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When a relationship has shifted from difficult to destructive, it’s no longer sustainable. So I’m gonna say what? That is a very important I don’t consider right there. Okay, it’s too many times we hang on to relationships because they just been there for forever and that relationship is not serving you. What are you doing? What are you doing? Are you just holding on just cause you just wanna hold on? That’s probably not. That’s not good advice. That’s not good leadership. Okay, sometimes the best thing a leader can do is just go ahead and break that tie. You know. You try to correct it. You do. You do all you can to reconcile. Reconciliation doesn’t exist. You gotta move forward. Gotta good leader recognizes you know what this path here is not fruitful. I need to do it about face. Go this direction. That’s what it’s all about.
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So again, check this book out. I full-ish. I have not read it personally. I do plan to read it, but we’ll make this link available on the show that it’s good. Boundaries and goodbye. So hopefully you guys enjoy that.
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All right, now dad joke time. You know I know you guys love your dad jokes. Number one how do you get a country girl’s attention? A tractor yeah, all right, fellas, I like that one personally. Number two what do you call an angry counselor, a therapist? So there you go, fellas, I don’t know. I’m kinda torn this week on which ones I like the most. Number one how do you get a country girl’s attention? A tractor. Number two what do you call an angry counselor, therapist? So I don’t know. You, let me know which one lasts best. Remember, I rolls count. I know which one got my wife going back up. I’ll see you on that tractor later, girl. So just, yeah, I know which one gets her attention, but hopefully you guys enjoy those.
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If you have a dad joke that you wanna be considered for the show, hey, email me, supportatthelinewithinus. If I use it, I’ll give you a shout out on the show, give you some recognition, always looking for good dad jokes and also always looking for good tips to leak. If you have a tip that you have really found value in, send it over supportatthelinewithinus, I’ll give you a free, a shout out here on the show. I even hook you up with one of our resources for free just to give you something that we’re taking the time to support the show. So we’d love to hear your tips, things like that to help you be better husbands, better dads, better stewards, take every mind and your body better. So let me know what those tips are. Be glad to share those out with others, okay Now.
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So the question this week is I’ve been by forgiving this, okay, but really, how can forgiveness extend beyond the limits we set? We put limits on everything right. We even put limits on God. We put God in a box. You can’t tell me you don’t put God in a box. You know why? Because I put God in a box. Sometimes we gotta take Him out, because we can forgive extravagantly when we forgive God’s way. But that means taking a whole different view on what forgiveness looks like. Okay, big time difference there, big time difference. So hopefully you guys can start thinking about forgiveness that extend beyond the limits that you set in your life. Okay, all right now, fellas. So get after it. Look, share this out with others. I’m telling you that’s the biggest thing you can do to help to show.
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Okay, all right, guys, come back next week. Got a lot more content planned for you. Try to just keep giving you good, positive, encouraging feedback. Hopefully that serves you well and helps you keep growing. So don’t forget, it’s all about forgiving others. Don’t put those parameters around. You saw these tips that we shared this week to help improve your forgiveness. Tell me if you lean into this stuff, guys, it’s gonna make a big difference. But you gotta put in the work. All right, those get after it, stay strong, do what you gotta do, be obedient and also never forget to unleash the lion with them.
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