I just spent 45 minutes talking with a man in his early 30s battling stage 4 cancer—and he completely shut me down.
We covered everything from church hurt to his desire to simply be “a good person.” When he asked what I meant by the Gospel, I shared it as clearly and humbly as I could. But as the conversation deepened, he told me he still believes his life is in his hands—even in the face of death. He doesn’t think he needs a Savior.
I prayed silently throughout our conversation, asking for the right words. They didn’t land like I’d hoped—but I know God wasn’t surprised. I’m still praying for him and his wife, specifically that he surrenders his life to Christ.
That conversation reminded me that when it comes to the things that truly matter—like salvation—it starts inside. It also reminded me that while the outcome is God’s responsibility, my obedience in sharing is mine.
I’ll be honest—I left that call deflated. I wanted to stop being so bold. If someone facing this level of finality still rejects the Gospel, what hope is there?
But that’s when I remembered: the fire inside isn’t mine. And quitting isn’t an option. That’s biblical leadership—the tension between wanting to walk away and being compelled to stay, because God’s truth is burning too hot to ignore.
There’s a cost to being a truth-teller. But holding it in only makes us sick inside.
Remember, brother—the fire in your bones isn’t yours. It’s His. Lead with obedience. Speak with love. And trust that the Holy Spirit is always moving—even when your words seem to fall flat. That’s worth showing up for, every time.
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