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Doing life with God as your guide is the only way to go!
This week Carlos Hidalgo unpacked a powerful testimony of how chasing the “American” dream left his life in shambles. His story was raw, real and unfiltered. There was a ton of wisdom and insight Carlos provided as he shared how we can all design our life God’s way.
Everybody wants to talk about the why. Carlos wants you to start with the who: Christ. Click To TweetChris Grainger
And we’ve had a really great week on the line with now. I wanna talk again. We’re going, we’re going open up every episode of the line within with scripture now, although podcasts, uh, people that you talk to the coaches and things like that, they’re gonna say, well, you need to open your podcast with a hook or our hook is scripture bottom line.
So we’re going, we will always go there first and we’re gonna go to job 2310. But he knows the way that I take when he has tested me, I will come forth as gold and guys, I unpack that scripture, big time on the spiritual kickoff on Monday, I really went through what that looks like. What, what, what, what I gleaned from and what this, the spirit told me from it, as well as just some areas that you can start thinking about how to apply this scripture to your life.
You know, I want you to come forth as. Here’s the thing. Gotta go through some heat sometimes to get that furnace, to burn it off, to be purified. When you go through that heat, then the, the purification happens. All right. So guys on Wednesday, if you missed it, you need to go back shame on yourself, but go back.
I’m gonna tell you what cause we had Carlos had I go on and I tell you what, Carlos unpack it all. He talk. So we were really talking about, you know, designing life God’s way. And what does that look like? And Carlos, I love it. Everybody wants to talk about the why. Why, why, why give me the why I even host a podcast that, that, that literally asks why is in the name of it, right?
Simon Sinek, great stuff. I, and I do love his stuff. Carlos wants to start with the who and specifically. Who are we in relation with Christ? You know, what type of relationship do we have? Where is God in our life? So that was just a beautiful area that he really touched on. I mean, Carlos got real, it got raw.
He talked about some very dark places in his life. How that impacted him, his marriage. If there was infidelity there, you know, he was hiding a lot. There was pornography, there were areas of his life. Many of you may be struggling with right now. And Carlos walked through how you go from broken to redeemed.
And here’s the thing, guys. There’s nothing we can do. It’s all in the healing power of Christ. And ultimately if you lean in on Christ, if you, if you accept that and you bring it to him, then you can start designing your life. God’s way, you know, Satan is patient. He’s gonna find little inflection points and start slowly working and working and working, you know?
Well, it’s just an innocent text. Well, I’m just, I’m just, I just wanna see how she’s doing. It’s been a long time since I’ve talked to her. Hey, it’s just lunch. Everybody eats lunch. What’s the big deal or it’s just coffee. Right? And as soon as you let those little areas into your life, they can grow. They can manifest.
They can be a, a, a Deon to your testimony. I mean, really think about it, go back to Clarence Haynes to that episode on the line within it. So he talked about clear boundaries that he established and how, when he went out, when he was traveling for work, you know, there’s, there’s no one on one meetings with women.
There’s no going to dinner by themselves. Now some of you guys may be thinking that’s that’s. That, that that’s that’s too cut, you know, too, too line in a sand that that’s not that’s saying that they don’t trust me. No. The Bible says flee sexual imorality flee. Don’t play with it. Don’t don’t, don’t, don’t go out there and, and, and just, and try to, you know, wrestle with it the best you can.
You’re supposed to flee, get it out your life. Cause Satan wants your marriage to. In Carlos, he unpacked, he unpacked how that worked, what he needed to do, how he needed to change. Then he also unpacked some, some areas of his book so far as designing life God’s way with boundaries and setting up the right boundaries.
And why balance is, is, is not the right approach. Cuz at some point you will fall put boundaries that are more, they’re more permanent. They establish the guidelines better. And when you establish the guidelines better, then at that point you can start moving together in the right direction. Guys, Satan wants you to stay so busy at work that you just ignore what’s going on at home.
You know what, and your kids, they don’t want your money. They want your time. And we talked about that too. The, the, the qu the quantity over the quality quality times. Great. But they just want you. Can you really be there on your smartphone or are you actually there and think about that. I mean, are you having dinner with him?
Are you talking to him? Are you, how often do you just have a, a, a, just an engaging conversation with your kids or with your wife? So guys, you really need to be intentional here, and I love what you talked about, about intentionally recharging. And making sure we’re not stacking our calendars with busyness.
You know, he call the ultra rating rhythms and, and those think 90 to 120 minutes, you can crank out so much work, but then you gotta have a break need to rest. And as guys we don’t wanna do that, we just want to go wide open all the time and I get it, you know, going wide open all the time is, is, is pretty much the way I go.
I, I do a lot of writing at night. Do you sleep? And yes, I do. But I gotta start slowing down myself because if you don’t take the time, God’s gonna take it for you. So I mean that, that conversation with Carlos, it was extremely impactful for me. So I encourage you guys to go back, check that out. I, I think there’s gonna be areas in there that you can apply right now to make a big difference.
All right. Now you don’t have fun Fridays. I’m gonna give you some tips, a hail tip, a wealth tip, and a self tip. Right guys. So let’s get started with our health tip, kind of going off a little bit of what Carlos talked about. Bottom line, quit ignoring the Sabbath. Seriously. You know, it’s it’s it’s when you think about the, the commandments, right?
This one is just not viewed the same as like adultery or murder, right? Like what girls say, you know what? I’m not gonna kill anybody that that’s a, that is a, a hard set rule. I’m not gonna kill anybody or I’m not gonna commit adultery. Right. But observing the Sabbath is on the same list. And we don’t treat it with the same, uh, type of magnitude as, as some of those other ones.
So God designed us to bust it. I get it to work hard for six days, but rest one, you know, somebody told me one time, if you don’t rest at some point, guy’s gonna make you rest. So, you know what honor him observe the SAB. Be thankful that we have a Lord who recognized that we need the rest and if he can do it all in six days and took a rest on the seven, what makes us think that, that, that we’re better and that we need to hustle harder?
You know, there, there, there is utility and business busyness in itself is a pandemic. Men are struggling with this. We feel like we’re busy, we’re we’re valuable or something like that, or, or, or there’s meaning, well, sometimes you need to, to rest so that God can give you direction. You know, this is something I really had to work on myself around, you know what this happen.
We’re not gonna jump on social media. We’re not gonna be out here trying to bust it or right. Or do things or, or, you know, try to, to do things, to grow the line within a snow. Because I, I need to honor him now. I’ll set up some, some automatic things that may drop out on, on the Sabbath, but it’s, it’s, I’m being very intentional to back away from the business and understand that, you know what, six days busting it, serving him.
That’s what he’s asking me to do on the seventh. I just need to trust him. And if you don’t, if you don’t observe it, basically, you’re saying you don’t trust. I, I gotta put this in. I, I gotta do this. God knows what you need. Observe the Sabbath. Remember that doesn’t always have to be Sunday. Maybe it’s an all day of the week for you, but there needs to be a down day where you rest recharge that way you come out and fight the battle.
Cause guys, you are in a battle and you gotta be arrested for. So there’s your, there’s your health tip for a wealth tip this week? I, I kind of went back to some, some things when I, from another podcast. If, if you guys go back, I interviewed Andrew Sayer. He’s the host of the investing for beginner’s podcast.
A great show by the way, been on it myself. Love, I love what he’s doing to serve others there, uh, in their journey. So in episode 2 22 of investing for beginner’s podcast. They really unpack the idea of dollar cost averaging. So this is a new topic for you. I encourage you. Go check out the show notes. I’ll try to sync that up.
So you’ll have a link, so you can go check that episode out, but basically what dollar cost averaging is is it’s just an investment strategy. Okay. And what you do is you divide up every month, the total amount that you want invest, and you say, okay, I’m gonna invest 150 bucks a month. All right. And then every month.
You, you, you intentionally intentionally make those investments of whatever you’re trying to invest in. If it stocks, if it’s mutual funds, whatever it is. I mean, Andrew they’re, they’re big stock guys. And then you make that, that investment every month, you know, and regardless of where things are and what you’re doing is you’re reducing the impact of volatility.
So whether the stuff goes up while stuff goes down, if I’m consistent in my investments on the overall purchase, You know what, at the end, it things will progress. And you’re building habits. You’re building muscle memory into investing, which is so critical. You know, we are, we are called to be good stewards, you know, and stewards invest the money that we, we, we need to be growing what God has blessed us with so that we can in turn, serve him even.
So dollar cost averaging is a great way to start teaching yourself the habit of investing. So again, go check out Andrew, on episode 2, 22 of investing for beginners’ podcast, highly encourage that by way. Go ahead and follow that podcast. You guys, you hear me talking about it. We drop the ads in this and, and to the line within us, where we talk about investing for beginners as being one of our partner.
That e-letter he does seriously guys. It’s legit. It’s really good. I get it every month. It’s one of the emails I actually look forward to getting look forward to opening, just to see what I can learn from Andrew. He’s a great guy. He’s a personal friend. Actually. We, we get to see each other on a pretty consistent basis.
Guys. I would not be pointing you in a direction that I didn’t trust. And Andrew puts in the work. He puts in the work to put out good information to help the investors understand the, the, the ins and outs of what’s going on in the market. And to bring some, some clarity to a confusing world. So there you go.
There’s your well tip, uh, dollar cost averaging now for your self tip. I want you to think about this. I’m not taking credit for this. I’m gonna tell you where I got this from pastor Jo B Martin. Now I listen to his podcast every week. I’m literally listen to about three or four, maybe even five or six of his sermons every week.
I’m going back. I’m all the way back in, I think 2019 now just working my way constantly back through different sermon series. But when he talks about marriage, he talks about being a covenant, not a contract. Now this was part of his song of Solomon series. If I remember correctly, I’m, I’m going off memory here, guys.
That’s kind of dangerous when, when Chris starts doing that. But in that, in that series, he talks about how marriage is a covenant, not a contract and contracts say, if you, then I, right, that’s the way a contract works. If you do this, then I will do that. Right. Covenants say, No matter what I do. So think about this, not if you, then I rather no.
What, no matter what I do, that needs to be your view of marriage. Okay. So start thinking right now, what needs to change to shift from contract banking to covenant thinking? Cause the, the covenant of marriage is beautiful. It’s wonderful. It can help you in so many areas when you get this right. But you gotta get out of contract thinking.
It’s not, if you then I, Nope. Nope. It’s no matter what I. There you go, guys. They’re your three tips. So number one, hell, quit ignoring a dog on Sabbath. Okay. Unless you wanna listen to the line within us, that’s pretty sure that’s okay. On the Sabbath. You go ahead and jump, jump, jump on that. Well, tip start thinking about dollar cost to averaging or at least evaluated and see if that could be a strategy that could help you build wealth growing forward.
And a self tip. Marriage is a contract marriage. Sorry, is a covenant, not a contract. Know if you then. Yes too. No matter what I do. All right guys. So the book of the week, I even for on Wednesday, I spoiled it. I know it. I couldn’t help it, but the un-American dream. I got a copy right here. This is from my friend, Carlos, tell you what he did a phenomenal job.
This release, I believe he said in 2019, but it’s, it’s, it’s outstanding. And guys, it aligns with so much of what we talk about on the line within. About setting those boundaries up and understanding what that looks like, understanding what the American dream actually is. Right. And what that should that look like?
What do you need to start sacrificing? Uh, what do you want the end to look like in your life? You know, so go ahead and skip to the end. You’ve got a chapter called skip to in skip to the end. What do you want that to look like? What do you want that legacy to be? And then, okay. Now what do you need to start doing now right now to make that a reality.
So so many great tips and ideas from Carlos and the un-American dream love this book. So you go check out the show notes, check out the book of the week page. We’ll have all that synced up for you guys. So you can add this to your personal library again, highly recommend. I’m not gonna recommend stuff that I haven’t read, or if, at least if it’s a book the week that I haven’t read, I’m gonna let you guys know it, but I can promise you one thing.
I will read it. Okay. So I’d love to get your feedback on this. Dad joke time for our fun Fridays. Okay. So dad joke. Number one. What do you call a zombie who writes music? A decomposer. Come on. That was so easy. All right, so guys, that’s number one. Number two, my friend keeps telling me to cheer up. It could be worse.
I could be stuck on a ground in a, in a hole full of water. Well, I know he means. So guys, there you go. I know for me, probably leaning number two this week, but, uh, number one, what do you call a zombie who writes music? A, a decomposer number two by Frank keeps telling me to cheer up. It could be worse. I could be stuck underground and a hole full of water.
I know he means well, so there you go. And again, I rolls count. So keep that in mind when it comes to dead jokes. Sometimes the, the worse, the better, right? It’s it, it, from that standpoint, now the question I’ve been talking about all week, guys, do the fires of life scorch or purify you. So do they scorch you?
Are you just getting burned when things happen or are you actually getting refined and purified? And that’s the goal we need to be refined. We need to be purified, need to be moving forward in the right direction. So guys again, fun Friday. I, I pray that this served you well, gives you some encouragement going into the weekend.
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In true Fun Friday fashion Chris unpacks some Health, Wealth and Self tips and this week really pay attention to the Self area. Marriage is a beautiful covenant and too often we get that mixed up by thinking it is a contract. Honor the covenant and get ready for the continuous blessing!
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