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What are you chasing in life?
It’s easy to get caught up in the lust of the flesh, the lust of the eyes and the pride of life. Overcoming those takes work and that’s how you become a strong Christian man. Understanding that on our own it’s impossible but by the power of the Holy Spirit you are more equipped to do great things for the Kingdom than you possibly know.
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It’s been one of my favorite, quite frankly, cuz I just, I think this is such a powerful scripture for guys in general. First Corinthians, chapter 16 verse. Be on the alert stand firming to faith. Act like men be strong. I mean that right there, that’s t-shirt worthy stuff fell. I mean, come on, get some of that.
That’s right outta God’s word. This is how we need to act. Go and check out that spiritual kickoff. Cause I unpack each four, uh, those four areas. I kind of unpack them individually. To give you some ideas of what that can look like in your life, because I know, I know you wanna do great things for the Lord.
I know that you’re on fire and that you want to, to, to really lead your family. You want to do be a good steward of your finances. You want your career to grow. You want your marriage to just be not just good but amazing outs, just phenomenal. To do all that you need to understand how to apply God’s word to make that.
All right, so go check that spiritual kick out, spiritual kickoff out if you want to go, uh, and, and learn more about that scripture. Now, if you missed our meat episode this week had a wonderful conversations with Taurus McClane. He unpacked his book, the Man Code, where basically Taurus walks through the journey he’s had in his marriage where, uh, sexual sin nearly ruin.
He, he shares a story of two affairs he had and how he and his wife were able to overcome this. They have four children and they were able to, to move past, and now they have a, a ministry called Hope Ambassadors. Guys, it was a powerful conversation. Lots of truth talks about, you know, how, um, dec important discipleship is and how that wasn’t there when he first got baptized, when he first was a.
It really wasn’t a discipleship journey or, or, or type of, of leadership that were willing to help him and how important that is. Then we talked a lot about just our identity and what, and what do we associate our identity with, and then forgiveness. What does forgiveness look like and how does that, how can we move forward with sins like this?
Enter, and ultimately, guys, spoiler alert, starts with us and un and surrendering, and surrendering ourselves. And, and you know what? I can’t, I can’t impact others on, on or change their minds directly. What I can do is just chase Jesus, live my life according to what he’s called me to do, and prayerfully if I do that the right way, and that’s gonna make an impact on others.
And then from there, you just let the spirit do the work. Okay? So it was a powerful conversation with Taurus. Really highly encourage you guys to go check that one out. Hopefully, as you enjoy that, hopefully it served you well. So, you know, on our fun Friday, I’m gonna give you tips and I, and, and our, on our Wednesday episode, I told you they were good ones.
So this week, uh, I really spent some time praying about how can I give you some tips that are going to serve you? It’s gonna help you grow. So we have a health wealth self tip today. So let’s start off with our health tip. Okay? Now again, we talked about marriage. And we talked about how to make ’em better.
So here’s one, and I will credit my, my buddy JD out there from uncovering intimacy. Uh, he, he turned me onto this idea and I, I, I was very hesitant at first, but since following j d’s advice, uh, we, we, we, we made this happen. And I will tell you, it’s been a, just a blessing for me and my wife. And it’s basically, it’s, it is simple.
Learn how to give massage. Okay. It’s because it’s a great way to connect with your wife on a regular basis. And if you learn together, okay, you’re gonna benefit as well. Cause you know, she’s gonna learn these skills, right? So there are online classes available you guys can check out. Uh, this is a great way to go.
There is, there’s one, I’m just gonna go ahead and refer you to the one that jd, uh, referred me to. So I’ll drop that link in our, in the show notes here, if you guys wanna check it. But it’s just a great way to spend some time with your wife in a meaningful way. And I wanna clarify one thing. The goal of massages and, and things like that.
It’s not sex, okay? It’s just not sex. You need to get your mind right for here. Now what happens, happens. But the goal is to be with her, to talk, to communicate, to help you and her grow together as a couple, and to grow together takes intention, you know? So putting down the. You know, pick up some, some, some almond oil and learn a skill that will connect you two for years to come.
I’m telling you guys, this is something just that, that putting down the phone part, uh, and just learning something, it’s fun. You know, you don’t have to be great at this stuff if, cuz if, I think if you’re just showing intent, you’re just trying, if you’re just putting effort in and, and having an opportunity to just, just connect with your wife.
And yes, it’s a physical way, but yeah, take it as an opportunity to grow, to connect with her spiritually as. As you do your massage, talk about the things to the Lord that, that, that he’s laid on your heart. Maybe you just pray together. Why are you giving her a massage? Right. There’s all sorts of ways.
That’s a great way. Again, I, I’m going through a class myself right now. Highly recommend it. I think there’s lots of fun that, that you can learn and these skills are awesome and they, once you learn the skills, by the way, you’ll have ’em. Okay? Now, for your wealth tip, this is a different type of wealth tip.
I told you guys spent some time really praying over this fun Friday for your wealth tip. This is gonna sound silly. Be a buffalo and not a. Be a buffalo, not a cow. So lemme explain it. Hear me out. Okay, so you’re going to have storms that are gonna come and they’re going to hit your finances. They will.
Okay. And when you do, you need to have that buffalo mindset. I know we talked about the bear market. Bear market and the bull market. I, that’s not what I’m talking about. When stores, when storms comes, In, in real life cows, what they do, a lot of times the storms will come from the west and immediately the, the cows will start running east.
Okay. That’s just, that’s just their nature. That’s the way that God designed ’em. They run east, so eventually the storm catches them and because of the direction that they’re running, they end up in the storm longer than if they’ve just stayed still and weathered it. Okay. They’re, they’re, they’re running, trying to get away and it’s, but in the end, they spend more time going through it than if they were just chilled out.
Now buffalos, what do buffalos do when Buffalos see a storm and go check this out? They actually run towards the storm. They turn and they run towards it. And why they do this cause. If they run towards it, they actually spend less time overall in that storm, and then they can get to the other side faster.
So if you’re struggling with finances right now and you’re, you’re trying to tighten everything up and, and everything to the point where right now it just hurts, I’m just gonna encourage you, right? Start making some real financial decisions to run towards the storm. You may have to sell some. You may have to sell some cars, some houses, some cats.
I’m just kidding. You don’t have to sell your cat, but hey, you may want to, I’m not sure if would actually buy it, but you get my point. Okay? Lean into it. Be at Buffalo. Okay? And, and remember the buffalo and the cow? They went through the same storm. They just had very different experiences. So really think about that cuz if you’re trying to maybe get outta debt or trying to, to achieve something from a financial standpoint and you’re taking that cow approach, you’re gonna struggle.
You’re not gonna have the success that you, that you hope to have. So be a buffalo, not a cow. Alright, free yourself tip. I talked about this with Taurus, but I, I had actually to, in all, just, uh, to full disclosure, I wrote this one down before I met with Taurus. So, you know, maybe it was a spirit thing that we talked about it, but you need to start implementing and really consider Billy Graham rule when it comes to other women.
Now, what is this? This means no one-on-one encounters, meetings, meals. Any of these types of scenarios with other women whatsoever. The only one-on-one woman, uh, one-on-one meeting or engagement you should have with a woman, should be your wife. So you need to remove yourself from these situations and it at all costs.
You gotta take this serious, you know? And if you gotta do this for work, if you have to go to lunch with, with a female colleague from work, go with a colleague. Go with a colleague if you have to travel for work. TAUs not talked about this a. Stay at separate hotels. Do whatever you need to do to put that barrier between there.
And you know what, some people may think that, well, that’s just stupid. And why do I need to do that? Well, because I wanna be weird. Cause you know, normal is broken divorce, so let’s just be weird and be united and married. That’s what I want. So be intentional about those barriers. Put those barriers up.
You know, if you have to be in a, in a, in a work environment where a room with another woman by yourself, doors, sky still open. Doors, sky still. And he has to just remember at all times your testimony as your testimony as a Christian male is so much more important than that meeting or whatever you’re trying to get done at work.
I guarantee you that. So honor God, honor your marriage by instituting this rule immediately. You can’t, you can’t go wrong with this one, guys. It’s a very simple rule, but again, too many guys just they, they fly by this with thinking, what? It’s not for me telling. Put this in into, into practice. Make it part of who you.
And God will protect and will bless your marriage. So there’s your health tip. So they’re your tips guys. Your your three tips, your health tip. Learn how to give those massages your wealth tip. I want you to be a buffalo, not a cow, and a self tip. I want you to start implementing that bill of Graham rule.
Really think about that guys. Okay? These, these tips are designed to help you grow. Now the book we talked about already all week, but man, From TAUs. Mcle right here, breaking free from sexual as sin to become the man God called you to be. That’s a really great book, guys. It’s, it’s a, it’s a quick read, guys.
Let’s see. It’s got, uh, he has actually has a little study, uh, in the back of journal that’s 124 pages. Guys, you’ll be able to get through this one. But he, he has a lot of transparency. He has a lot of scripture as well, and then he has a little, uh, journal in the back that would be really good for like a.
A discipleship group. You guys wanna read this book and go through it? It actually has I think 10, yeah, 10 chapters. So it’d be like a, you could do like a 10 week study or maybe just, you know, maybe you wanna cram in. You actually do it over a couple weeks. But it’s a really good little resource. I think that you guys will enjoy this book.
Uh, it’s definitely one that I’m glad to have this part of my library and, uh, if anybody has any questions about it, just let me know. But you can check out the, the links and the show notes and we’ll have, uh, a link directly. So free. You can grab you a copy if you wanna grab. Now let’s get to our dad jokes.
All right, so our dad jokes scout. One of the dad jokes that’s actually submitted by a community member. Uh, one of ’em I found ’em on. So let’s just jump in. So, dad joke number one, what did the three-legged dog say when he walked into the saloon? I’m looking for the man who shot my paw. So there you go.
That was actually submitted by, by James Chapman, who is from our community. James is a character he loves to, to, to share these dead jokes with us. So, uh, hopefully that one serves you will, but guess it gets you a little chuckle going. So, dead joke number two, why are your fingers the most reliable part of the body?
Because you can always count on. There you go guys. Number one, what did the three-legged dog say when he walked into the to the saloon? I’m looking for the man who shot my paw. And number two, why are your fingers the most reliable part of your body? As you can always count on them. So let us know which one, number one or number two, which one lands best?
Remember, eye rolls count, all that stuff there, guys. Now for the question we talked about all week, what does faithfulness look like in your marriage? Really think about that. What does faithfulness look like? Now, I know I’ve talked about a lot of things this week around, um, being transparent, being open, being real, being vulnerable.
Remember, fake you’s just fine. Leave him at home. Your wife needs to reel you, and that means you need to be faithful to her in all things, okay? It means your testimony is important, guys, the way that we walk as Christian men, if we want to be the leaders, God intends us to be. The way we walk our testimony is I.
It matters. So guys, be careful. Guard your thoughts, guard your tongue, guard your eyes, whatever you need to do. But take lessons from these conversations like this and start applying some of these things to your life that really, guys, I don’t want you to have a good marriage. I want you to have a phenomenal marriage, an incredible marriage.
I want you to just do things that, that you never even dreamed of because the Lord is leading you. And if you put him at the center and. This is a recap. Your wife cannot complete you. You do not complete your wife. The only thing that can complete us is Jesus Christ. You need to be running towards Jesus prayer.
For least She’s running towards Jesus too. And as you do, you guys are gonna come together. And when you have Jesus at the forefront, when he’s at the hunt at the head of your marriage, just get. Because he’s gonna do some incredible things if you’re willing, if you’re obedient. And just follow and just follow him in and through all things, guys.
So there you go. There’s your fun Friday. Give us a rating and review. That would really help. And guys, again, check out the community. I don’t know what you’re waiting on. Go to the line with Ann us. That’s where we have real conversations. You can connect with me directly in there. I’m inside a community every day trying to serve guys.
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It’s no big deal. But we put a lot of effort into this, a ton of effort into it. And I will tell you this, the quality of the conversations and the engagement with other men has gone through the roof. Through the roof since we launched this c. You will find guys that are willing to share, lean in, support, serve, but you gotta take the opportunity to actually jump in.
Don’t just be a listener. I, I get it. We want you listening to the show, but take some action cuz you may have a tip out there. You listen to a fun Friday, you may have a tip. You know what, Chris, you need to share this tip. I want to know. I do. The only way I’m gonna know is if, if you’re in the community, then you can just talk to me directly and we can have conversations.
Would love, love to know your tips so we can share those with others. Also, love to have your dad jokes again, we like to get our dad jokes from our community. Share those with others as well. So we’ll get you some shout outs on the show. So guys, we have a lot of fun things planned. Big, big thing. Big things are happening this year in 2023 for the line within us prayerfully.
We have a lot of plans, of course, we’ll see what the Lord’s plans are, but we are definitely trying to put the work in to do the work, to do the things that we feel like he has called us to do, and ultimately this community serving Christian men. That is a big deal. So I pray we get that. We see you in there soon, and when you, if you come in, let me know what you episode that you listened to, that, that, that convinced you to come in, why you want to, why you wanted to check it out, and what are you hoping to learn?
What are you hoping to, to gain from being a member of the lion within us? So guys, I pray you have a great weekend. Remember the scripture this week. Go get that first Corinthians 16. Th. Get that highlighted, get it underlined. Whatever you need to do in your Bible, maybe write on a flashcard. Get that one cemented then.
But I want you to be on the alert. I want you to stand firm in the faith. I want you to act like man, and definitely be strong. But remember, let all that you do be done with love. That’s what it’s about guys. We gotta share that love of Christ with others. So I pray you have a great weekend. Get after it.
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In this Fun Friday you will get several tips that will serve you well. As you think about the wealth tip ask the question – am I a cow or a buffalo? If you are a cow then what can you start changing to come towards the buffalo camp?
Let us know which Dad Joke lands the best and be sure to grab a copy of Torres McLean’s book to add it to your library.
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