In this episode:
Picture yourself in a dark room, feeling alone and overwhelmed by a struggle you can’t seem to overcome – a struggle with pornography.
We invite you to step into the light with us and our guest, Joshua Broome, as he shares his candid experiences from the pornography industry. His insights provide a rare glimpse into the darkness of the industry and highlight the power of accountability in overcoming such struggles. Together, we delve into the transformative power of 1 John 4:4, and how it serves as a beacon of hope that the one in us is stronger than the one in the world.
Welcome to the Lion Within Us, a podcast serving Christian men who are hungry to be the leaders God intends you to be. I’m your host, chris Granger. Let’s jump in. All right, fellas, it is fun. Friday time. Are you ready? Are you ready? Well, here we go anyway. Ready or not? All right, so we’re going to be in the book of 1 John this week.
Okay, 1 John, not regular John, but the first one towards the end of your Bible, guys, remember, towards the end of your Bible. Chapter 4, verse 4 says you, dear children, are from God and have overcome them because the one who is in you is greater than the one who is in the world. That verse, right there, should have you hanging on the rim today. I’m not sure where you’re at, maybe you’re at the basketball court. Go, jump up and hang on the rim. You can’t get there and get a ladder, but seriously, that verse is powerful. I spent a lot of time unpacking it in the spiritual kickoff, so if you haven’t listened to that one yet, I highly encourage you to go back and sometime let that, let those those words right there, from just from this one verse. So again, and understand who’s you are. Guys, I know you’re up against so much and I know because I’m up against a lot too, but you guys are up against it. I just want to give you just a seat of encouragement today that, look, you can overcome, not because of your strain no, that ain’t it but because the one in you is greater than the one who is in the world. Don’t take my word for it, that’s straight from God’s word. All right Now. So if you guys missed our, our meet episode this week, it was a powerful. It was a powerful episode.
So we had Joshua Broom on and he spent a a stent of his life in the pornography industry, to the point where he he won multiple awards, he was in thousands of films, he was the entertainer of the year or the most coveted award in that industry. He had money, he had fame, he had it all and yet he felt empty and he shared the darkness of that industry, what it looks like, how it’s taken so many people down, how he mentioned 30 people, close friends of his, when they reached the end of their stent in that career. That was their identity and what did they do? They took their life. He just talked about so many things in that area, but what really was jumped out to me was how that one compromise, when you start compromising your values, that leads to the next compromise and the next. And it’s a snowball. Guys, it is a snowball and I I related to things like working out.
Hey, I think I’m just gonna skip working out today, I’m not gonna work out tomorrow, either. You know what. I’m just gonna go out every other day, it’s fine, or three days a week is fine. Then next thing, you know you haven’t worked out in a month. Right, it’s just snowballs, because if you compromise one area of your life, it’s, it’s just gonna, it’s gonna impact right.
For me lately it’s been my sleep. I’ve been sleeping in longer. I’m always used to get up at four o’clock in the morning 415 actually and I started. You know what I’m getting? I’m wearing it, I’m burning it both ends. I need more sleep, which is smart, but at the same time, I’m compromising. I’m not able to get my early morning workout in as much as I want. So I’m having to do some adjustments. I need to get back, because once you start compromising certain things, everything changes. Everything changes.
So I highly encourage you guys to go back and listen to that episode. It was interesting to get that inside perspective of that industry. Most of us don’t get that. We don’t get that opportunity to hear that when you think of pornography, you just think of what the world’s selling you, right? The fantasies, the girls, the scenes, all that stuff. That’s all lies. It’s all lies. There’s no connection there between these people. He mentioned his very first, his very first scene that he did. He never met the girl, never even spoke to her, right, and then during that time he just talks about the torment that he had in it. And just, guys, I’m telling you you have to remember every scene that you, if you ever look at that stuff, that is some one’s daughter and even if she doesn’t have an earthly father, she has a heavenly father. She’s a daughter of the king. We need to regard that. So I’m hoping that you learn something from that conversation with Josh. I know it was a long conversation, but that’s the one that we felt like it was important to get out All right.
Now for our fun Friday, we’re going to get to our tips this week. Okay, guys, we’re going to do a health tip, a well tip and a self tip. As a quick reminder, a health tip is mind and body Well tips career and finances. Self tip is being better husbands and better dads. So your health tip I want you to think about this right here. Okay, I want you to get an accountability partner. Get an accountability partner if you’re struggling with pornography. Seriously, get an accountability partner if you’re struggling with pornography, because this is an area of your life, guys, that I know so many men, so many men struggle with. And if you take the opportunity to be open and be vulnerable and share with others the struggles that you have, guys out there we want to help You’re going to find guys that absolutely want to step up and help you. I can promise you that. Okay, I can promise you that will happen.
But you have to take the initiative. You have to step out and say you know what? I’m going to expose this to the light. I’m going to get it out of the darkness, because I can’t keep it in the darkness any longer. As soon as you do that, as soon as you say you know what. I’m getting this in the light. I can’t have this anymore.
Lots of things are going to change. They will Primarily, what’s going to change is the evil. One is not going to have that hold on you any longer. He’s not going to be able to just sit there and beat you down with. You’re defined by this. You’re defined by this. No, I am not defined by this. You don’t get to define me. Satan, god, jesus, he defines me. So get an accountability partner.
Now, if you are somebody’s accountability partner, you better step up and you better start checking on them, asking questions. You don’t have to be probing everything, but you do need to ask some questions. You need to check in. Don’t wait for him to come to you. You go to them and you see how can I help this person and this moment, right here, what can I do to help them grow? Telling you take this serious, okay, so if you’re struggling with pornography, you can’t do this by yourself. We have lots of resources out there to help you, guys, but you have to lean in and try to be willing to be vulnerable, and if you do that, that accountability partner is going to help you with this.
Okay, all right, now for your well tip guys. I want you to make informed spending decisions, okay, so think about this Before you make a purchase. I want you to think about is it necessary? If I absolutely need this, what is the value of this, of this item, and what’s the impact that’s going to make to your overall financial well being.
Okay, so you need to kind of think of difference between needs and wants, fellas, because needs are kind of cool, wants are kind of well. That has its own place as well. But you need to clearly define you got to have something, you got to have something that’s in the need bucket. I want is well, it would be nice. Make sure you understand the difference, okay. Then you start from there. You start prioritizing those expenses.
You got to be smart, fellas. You got to be thrifty. Research your prices, compare options, look for discounts, look for coupons and codes and all that stuff. Do what you can to extend that dollar. The dollar today does not buy the same that it does five years ago. It’s not going to buy the same thing that it does tomorrow. So, which would be very smart here in informed buying decisions, I want you to think about delaying impulse purchases. Seriously hold up. Pump the brakes on the impulse purchases for crying out loud. Practice some mindful spending and avoid those unnecessary expenses. If you can make some wise financial choices, too many of us just go around. We’re just flying by the seat of our pants with our finances. We get to an end of the month song, we can pay the credit card off, we’re good. No, be a steward. A steward manages the money, and that’s making informed financial decisions, particularly around spending. Okay, I really want you to think about that, fellas, as you move forward. Now let’s get into our wealth tip this week. So, I’m sorry, get into our self tips this week. I’m all over the place. Get into our self tip this week.
I want you to normalize this topic here Sexual conversations. You got to normalize having those sexual conversations in your home, particularly around your children. Okay, I’m going to take your leader. Okay, and running away is not always an answer. You can’t run away. Topics like pornography can be uncomfortable, but I’d rather be uncomfortable now than regretful later. I really want to let that sink in. I’d rather be uncomfortable now than regretful later. So you’re gonna have to lean into some of these difficult issues, fellas, I’m just gonna be straight up with you.
You’ve got to share the dangers that exist for those people that you love the most. That means talking to your daughters about the dangers of pornography, talking to your sons about it as well. Make sure your sons understand that every woman he sees out there is a blood-vaulted daughter of the king, and that their bodies are worth it. That modesty is hot. You need to teach that to your daughters as well, that they need to understand that what they have is a gift and that gift should only be shared with their husband.
So, guys, you have to start having these conversations, because if you don’t have them, the world is going to have them, the world’s gonna come after them. This is gonna show them this stuff. You can’t protect them forever, you just can’t. At some point they’re gonna get exposed to it literally, and you have to be ready. You have to have them ready for that. So I’m not saying you need to sit down and show them this stuff, but I do. I’m saying you need to sit down and talk to them about it.
Hey, what you see there on that screen that pops up between a man and a woman, that’s not natural. It’s completely unnatural, because the way God has designed sex is between a husband and a wife one man, one woman for life, and what he has made, that’s beautiful. So don’t paint this picture of sex being dirty or negative or something like that. No, it’s beautiful when done in the confines of the way that Christ designed it. That’s it. You need to show them the difference, because the world is saying that, ain’t it? The world is saying no, no, no, no, no, no, no. Hook up, shack up, break up, repeat. That’s what the world’s gonna tell them. And the world is wrong, the world is broken. The voice fellas.
I’m telling you be proactive here. Okay, the age appropriate. For sure, the way you talk to a six-year-old is a lot different than a 12 or 16-year-old, but you need to be truthful, be open, be honest and if you talk to them, like I said, when they’re five they will talk to you and their teenagers. But you have to have that conduit, open that door, open up that opportunity for them to speak to you. Okay, so there’s your tip this week. So your tips again get that accountability partner for sure. If you’re struggling with pornography, I want you to make good financial decisions. You need to be thinking about how you are a steward and what those decisions look like, and then, from a self-tip, you need to start normalizing having sexual conversations in your home, healthy sexual conversation. Let me put that caveat in there. Okay, all right, guys. Now your book of the week. This week.
We’ve had this gentleman on the show before, but his other book, every Man’s Battle, is something that I feel like you guys know about Fred Stoker. We had him on talking about battle on battle, battle over great book. But Every Man’s Battle. You’re struggling in this area. If you know a brother that’s struggling in this area, go to the show notes page of this episode right now. Click on the link and go get this book. I’m telling you, it’s a well-known. It’s been sold all over the world, several different languages. Fred’s phenomenal guy. I actually love what he’s built, the things he’s done to help people. But sexual purity is possible. It is, it is possible. We need to understand the attacks that we have and then we can go on the offensive from there. All right, so go check out that. Every man’s battle.
Okay, now dad joke time. Who’s ready for some dad jokes? Dad joke. Number one I can’t understand why my calculator stopped working. It just doesn’t add up. So that’s number one. Number two I never understand why a set of false teeth are called dentures. They should be called substitutes. It goes well as number one. I can’t understand why a calculator stopped working. It just doesn’t add up. Number two I never understood why a set of false teeth are called dentures. They should be called substitutes, so let me know which one lands best.
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So the question of the week that we talked about all week is what areas of your life needs to be brought into the light, and I think every single one of us, including me, we have areas that we need exposed to the light, the things that we’re trying to hide, what you are not defined by that thing that you were trying to hide. So get out of that, don’t let that hold you back. Expose it to the light, get it out there and at that point you can combat it with the Holy Spirit. Fellas, that’s what it’s all about okay. So if you enjoyed this episode, if you enjoyed this week, share this content out with others, and that’s the biggest way you can help the show. I would also ask you if you would consider being a donor and supporter of the Lion with Dennis. That would be tremendous.
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Guys, remember who’s you are. Remember that first, john 4-4. Make it your. I challenge you. Get that scripture as one of your. It is written fellas, you can do this. Okay, lean into this. If you are struggling with pornography, you know where to go. Reach out to us Again.
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